I'm having a huge issue in my life and I'm ready to seek any type of advice.
I asked the woman of my life to marry me just over 1 year ago. When I asked her we had already been dating for 4 years. I'm 23 now and we want to get married next september (2015) i'll be 24 by then. Thing is my parents want to us to wait another year until we have other things sorted out.
about 7 months ago a moved 16 hr(drive) away from my fiancee because I landed a job in my field. It's a contract position that ends in april 2015 that could potentially be extended. My fiancee is currently working as a registered nurse. So we both have relatively good jobs (my job security is shaky because of the contract it could end)
we currently have the funds to get married and were given $5000 for our wedding by my fiancees family. But my side of the family specifically my parents are not happy...
they think we should wait another year and set up where we are going to live together and work on getting more permanent employment. They have said its a stupid idea to get married next year when we haven't sorted out living arrangements and permanent jobs.
Are my parents right or should I just go for it and get married this year even though they wont be happy. I want them to be happy about my marriage I really do! They weren't happy about my engagement because at the time even though I was working full time it wasn't a job in my field. They're worried about money, where I'll live, where she will live, and the timing of it.
My fiancee does not want to move to where I live (I feel like this would solve a lot of problems) Nursing is a flexible job and I know there's always jobs open everywhere. My job on the other hand is niche at best. The reason I don't want to move is because I'm worried I will have a hard time getting a job. And she doesn't want to move because she'll be leaving her friends and family behind.
I don't know what to do to rectify this situation and make everyone happy.
I asked the woman of my life to marry me just over 1 year ago. When I asked her we had already been dating for 4 years. I'm 23 now and we want to get married next september (2015) i'll be 24 by then. Thing is my parents want to us to wait another year until we have other things sorted out.
about 7 months ago a moved 16 hr(drive) away from my fiancee because I landed a job in my field. It's a contract position that ends in april 2015 that could potentially be extended. My fiancee is currently working as a registered nurse. So we both have relatively good jobs (my job security is shaky because of the contract it could end)
we currently have the funds to get married and were given $5000 for our wedding by my fiancees family. But my side of the family specifically my parents are not happy...
they think we should wait another year and set up where we are going to live together and work on getting more permanent employment. They have said its a stupid idea to get married next year when we haven't sorted out living arrangements and permanent jobs.
Are my parents right or should I just go for it and get married this year even though they wont be happy. I want them to be happy about my marriage I really do! They weren't happy about my engagement because at the time even though I was working full time it wasn't a job in my field. They're worried about money, where I'll live, where she will live, and the timing of it.
My fiancee does not want to move to where I live (I feel like this would solve a lot of problems) Nursing is a flexible job and I know there's always jobs open everywhere. My job on the other hand is niche at best. The reason I don't want to move is because I'm worried I will have a hard time getting a job. And she doesn't want to move because she'll be leaving her friends and family behind.
I don't know what to do to rectify this situation and make everyone happy.
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