I've recently considered seeking a counselor once I turned 18 because I actually feel guilt. However, this is new to me that this is also considered abuse and I thought what I was doing was only being rude and disrespectful or having girly tantrums (when she got upset) that goes away.
I thought abuse is the big school bully a big bad man literally either punching/beating up (or even just getting in her face) his gf/fiancee. The type that creates straight forward fear, can cause physical damages and you really felt threatened.
My aunt left her fiance because of that, after many months of others telling her to leave him. She's been single for 3 years now and still wants nothing to do with dating. Until not so long ago, I thought that was abuse, nothing else.
In my relationship:
We've been dating for 15 months now. He's 19 and I'll be turning 18 on Oct. 28th. Though our relationship is overall great, once in a while (not often) there have been a couple arguments and it's really me the one that gets angry more quicker. The first time, it was a bit of yelling and backing him on the wall (I was 16 then). Later on a couple distant occasions, I do admit to yelling and slapping him but not too hard, nothing too serious.
Though the last time was like 3 weeks ago, I've been feeling guilt and now do wonder if besides guys' typical emotions mainly being anger and frustration, can he actually be feeling hurt, in a similar way to my aunt?
I ask this because it's like he forgets it quickly, apparently brushes it off and things go back to normal after like 20 mins or so. He doesn't mention it nor express feeling hurt. Starting to feel bad to be honest. And when I mentioned this somewhere else online, others told me this is abuse too.
I thought abuse is the big school bully a big bad man literally either punching/beating up (or even just getting in her face) his gf/fiancee. The type that creates straight forward fear, can cause physical damages and you really felt threatened.
My aunt left her fiance because of that, after many months of others telling her to leave him. She's been single for 3 years now and still wants nothing to do with dating. Until not so long ago, I thought that was abuse, nothing else.
In my relationship:
We've been dating for 15 months now. He's 19 and I'll be turning 18 on Oct. 28th. Though our relationship is overall great, once in a while (not often) there have been a couple arguments and it's really me the one that gets angry more quicker. The first time, it was a bit of yelling and backing him on the wall (I was 16 then). Later on a couple distant occasions, I do admit to yelling and slapping him but not too hard, nothing too serious.
Though the last time was like 3 weeks ago, I've been feeling guilt and now do wonder if besides guys' typical emotions mainly being anger and frustration, can he actually be feeling hurt, in a similar way to my aunt?
I ask this because it's like he forgets it quickly, apparently brushes it off and things go back to normal after like 20 mins or so. He doesn't mention it nor express feeling hurt. Starting to feel bad to be honest. And when I mentioned this somewhere else online, others told me this is abuse too.
Put the internet to work for you.
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