First of all I would like to say hi to everyone here.
I have been married for more than 6 years now and I am wondering now if my husband ever really loved me. We've been having problems in our marriage for a while now. I have always thought that we could work things out no matter what. But now I am feeling that maybe it's all hopeless.
The problem is that we do not ever spend quality time as husband and wife. He feels that because he is the provider that when he gets home from work that he should not be expected to do anything. As far as weekend goes he feels that he should be left alone the entire weekend and just do whatever he wants, since he is the one who makes the money. I'm not the kind of wife that expects her husband to do household chores when he gets off of work. I am a good wife I always do things to make things easier for him since he goes out and works, that is my way of showing him that I love him and appreciate what he is doing for us as a family.
His routine when he gets off work is walk in and have a seat for awhile, asks if I'm ok, I say yes, he says that's good. Watches t.v for an hour, get undressed and flops on the couch and slaps out his cellphone and says nothing more to me. I try and talk to him he will not give his undivided attention, but says to go ahead and say what I want to say because he's listening while he looks at whatever he is doing on cellphone. I ask what is he doing on cellphone that he can't put it down to have a conversation with me, he says just reading news and sports. But this goes on until it's time to go to bed. Next day comes same thing again, this has been going on for at least 5 years. Once I have found that he was texting another woman and that he takes photos of himself naked. He had a photo of a naked woman in his phone I asked him what why did he have that he said that his friend sent him that and that he forgot to get rid of it. I have always helped him in every way that I can and have always been loyal and faithful, but it hurts me that he feels that it is BS to have conversations everyday with each other. He says that married people do not do that every day, they each do what ever they want by themselves.
He never makes me feel special, forgets anniversary, thinks of others on their birthdays, but forgets mine. We argue a lot and I feel so angry that now I am just yelling at him, I don't know what else to do about this. I always feel very lost, lonely and alone. When I cry he just ignores me and says why the hell I am crying and that I need to get over myself. He says we'll go to marriage counseling but we never do.
He makes me feel unwanted, unloved, worthless disrespected, unimportant sometimes feel like I am a less than a human being.
I feel like maybe it's me, he says that his biggest problem is me. That really hurts to hear that. I have no friends and the reason is that I did have a friend, but he always wanted us to be around her and he would make fun of me in front of her so that she could laugh at the jokes he makes of me. He has even told me that she is someone that he can see himself drinking beers with and having a good time talking with her. I have always wanted to spend quality time with him and that hurt me when he told me he'd like to shoot the breeze with her. He even has told me that I should know that just because I am his wife it doesn't mean that he doesn't like and admire other women, because he does.
Sorry my post is so long... just needed to talk about it.
I have been married for more than 6 years now and I am wondering now if my husband ever really loved me. We've been having problems in our marriage for a while now. I have always thought that we could work things out no matter what. But now I am feeling that maybe it's all hopeless.
The problem is that we do not ever spend quality time as husband and wife. He feels that because he is the provider that when he gets home from work that he should not be expected to do anything. As far as weekend goes he feels that he should be left alone the entire weekend and just do whatever he wants, since he is the one who makes the money. I'm not the kind of wife that expects her husband to do household chores when he gets off of work. I am a good wife I always do things to make things easier for him since he goes out and works, that is my way of showing him that I love him and appreciate what he is doing for us as a family.
His routine when he gets off work is walk in and have a seat for awhile, asks if I'm ok, I say yes, he says that's good. Watches t.v for an hour, get undressed and flops on the couch and slaps out his cellphone and says nothing more to me. I try and talk to him he will not give his undivided attention, but says to go ahead and say what I want to say because he's listening while he looks at whatever he is doing on cellphone. I ask what is he doing on cellphone that he can't put it down to have a conversation with me, he says just reading news and sports. But this goes on until it's time to go to bed. Next day comes same thing again, this has been going on for at least 5 years. Once I have found that he was texting another woman and that he takes photos of himself naked. He had a photo of a naked woman in his phone I asked him what why did he have that he said that his friend sent him that and that he forgot to get rid of it. I have always helped him in every way that I can and have always been loyal and faithful, but it hurts me that he feels that it is BS to have conversations everyday with each other. He says that married people do not do that every day, they each do what ever they want by themselves.
He never makes me feel special, forgets anniversary, thinks of others on their birthdays, but forgets mine. We argue a lot and I feel so angry that now I am just yelling at him, I don't know what else to do about this. I always feel very lost, lonely and alone. When I cry he just ignores me and says why the hell I am crying and that I need to get over myself. He says we'll go to marriage counseling but we never do.
He makes me feel unwanted, unloved, worthless disrespected, unimportant sometimes feel like I am a less than a human being.
I feel like maybe it's me, he says that his biggest problem is me. That really hurts to hear that. I have no friends and the reason is that I did have a friend, but he always wanted us to be around her and he would make fun of me in front of her so that she could laugh at the jokes he makes of me. He has even told me that she is someone that he can see himself drinking beers with and having a good time talking with her. I have always wanted to spend quality time with him and that hurt me when he told me he'd like to shoot the breeze with her. He even has told me that I should know that just because I am his wife it doesn't mean that he doesn't like and admire other women, because he does.
Sorry my post is so long... just needed to talk about it.
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