Part of me suspects that my husband is having an affair and I don't know what to do.
We have been together for almost ten years, and married for two. Back in the beginning of our relationship, he wasn't always faithful to me. I ended up forgiving him and we moved forward, and over the next few years I really felt he changed which is one of the reasons why I was okay with marrying him. We have certainly had some ups and downs since we married, but not until recently did I ever think an affair would be one of our issues again.
A few weeks ago, two family members of mine (who I don't speak to) told my sister that they saw him driving with a blonde girl in the car who they thought was me (but it was not). I confronted my husband and he insisted that this wasn't true and after awhile of discussing it with him, I decided to take his word over theirs. Then, just the other day, I came across numerous e-mails from a woman who is semi-local to us, and they are all invitations for him to go link to certain accounts of hers. She also added him to her "circle" on Google. I'm honestly not sure what that is, but there was a picture of her included in these e-mails and she does have blonde hair. Again, I asked my husband about it and he said he had no idea why he was receiving them and that they were Spam. I have never heard of receiving Spam from someone local, nor has this ever happened to me on my Google account. My husband became very defensive and angry over it. He called me "stupid" and "dumb," and he also tried to turn the situation around and make an accusation of me. May I add that the accusation he tried bringing up was from back before we married when we broke up for a three-month time frame. I have tried bringing up us considering marriage counseling, and he refuses to go. So I'm not sure where to go with any of this.
I'm unsure if I sound silly but even if I do, there is something telling me things aren't right. I just can't quite put my finger on it and I have nothing else to go on at the moment. I'm not looking for any harsh judgement... just advice and/or opinions would be greatly appreciated as I am hurting and not knowing what to think or where to go with it.
Does it sound like there could be something going on?
We have been together for almost ten years, and married for two. Back in the beginning of our relationship, he wasn't always faithful to me. I ended up forgiving him and we moved forward, and over the next few years I really felt he changed which is one of the reasons why I was okay with marrying him. We have certainly had some ups and downs since we married, but not until recently did I ever think an affair would be one of our issues again.
A few weeks ago, two family members of mine (who I don't speak to) told my sister that they saw him driving with a blonde girl in the car who they thought was me (but it was not). I confronted my husband and he insisted that this wasn't true and after awhile of discussing it with him, I decided to take his word over theirs. Then, just the other day, I came across numerous e-mails from a woman who is semi-local to us, and they are all invitations for him to go link to certain accounts of hers. She also added him to her "circle" on Google. I'm honestly not sure what that is, but there was a picture of her included in these e-mails and she does have blonde hair. Again, I asked my husband about it and he said he had no idea why he was receiving them and that they were Spam. I have never heard of receiving Spam from someone local, nor has this ever happened to me on my Google account. My husband became very defensive and angry over it. He called me "stupid" and "dumb," and he also tried to turn the situation around and make an accusation of me. May I add that the accusation he tried bringing up was from back before we married when we broke up for a three-month time frame. I have tried bringing up us considering marriage counseling, and he refuses to go. So I'm not sure where to go with any of this.
I'm unsure if I sound silly but even if I do, there is something telling me things aren't right. I just can't quite put my finger on it and I have nothing else to go on at the moment. I'm not looking for any harsh judgement... just advice and/or opinions would be greatly appreciated as I am hurting and not knowing what to think or where to go with it.
Does it sound like there could be something going on?
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