Hello everyone,
My wife and I have been married for 1 1/2 years, and together for 6 years total. I'm really crazy about her, and to this day I think she feels the same about me. Over the years, we have had our relationship struggles just like any other couples. Her core issue with me is that she cannot trust me. She has given me so many chances over the years. My dishonesty stems from a continuance of using alcohol/tobacco behind her back as well as conflict resolution. She stopped years ago, and I was supposed to follow suit. However, I didn't and tried to keep it from her. She always said that If I just told the truth it would be better than lying, she insists! I tend to be distrustful to avoid arguments because I grew up in a verbally abusive household.
On July 3rd she found out I was keeping something from her and she stopped talking to me for the entire month of July. She gave me the silent treatment and treated me as if I were a ghost around the house. I could not get a word out of her.
Two weeks ago she moved out of our home into her new apartment.
Other than our classic huge arguments, we get along great (so I think) and love each other much. She told me before she left "I'm tired of being hurt, I'm choosing me". Since then, I've started individual counseling since she refuses to go, and of course I'm here with you all. It's been really difficult, I'm having a hard time holding things together.
When my WAW left she LEFT BEHIND all of the stuffed animals, cards, and wedding paraphernalia at home with me. However, she DID take her wedding rings with her. I find that interesting because she did not wear it a month before she moved out. I expected her to leave it here. I'm confused, but hopeful. I have no idea if she's actually wearing it because she's gone. Thoughts?
For the first time in two weeks I seen her today and we talked. I asked her if she wanted a divorce and she said she didn't know, she said if she did she would have already filed. I told her that I would continue to honor giving her space until she is ready to contact me. When she does it would be to tell me if we're getting a divorce. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. :(
My wife and I have been married for 1 1/2 years, and together for 6 years total. I'm really crazy about her, and to this day I think she feels the same about me. Over the years, we have had our relationship struggles just like any other couples. Her core issue with me is that she cannot trust me. She has given me so many chances over the years. My dishonesty stems from a continuance of using alcohol/tobacco behind her back as well as conflict resolution. She stopped years ago, and I was supposed to follow suit. However, I didn't and tried to keep it from her. She always said that If I just told the truth it would be better than lying, she insists! I tend to be distrustful to avoid arguments because I grew up in a verbally abusive household.
On July 3rd she found out I was keeping something from her and she stopped talking to me for the entire month of July. She gave me the silent treatment and treated me as if I were a ghost around the house. I could not get a word out of her.
Two weeks ago she moved out of our home into her new apartment.
Other than our classic huge arguments, we get along great (so I think) and love each other much. She told me before she left "I'm tired of being hurt, I'm choosing me". Since then, I've started individual counseling since she refuses to go, and of course I'm here with you all. It's been really difficult, I'm having a hard time holding things together.
When my WAW left she LEFT BEHIND all of the stuffed animals, cards, and wedding paraphernalia at home with me. However, she DID take her wedding rings with her. I find that interesting because she did not wear it a month before she moved out. I expected her to leave it here. I'm confused, but hopeful. I have no idea if she's actually wearing it because she's gone. Thoughts?
For the first time in two weeks I seen her today and we talked. I asked her if she wanted a divorce and she said she didn't know, she said if she did she would have already filed. I told her that I would continue to honor giving her space until she is ready to contact me. When she does it would be to tell me if we're getting a divorce. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. :(
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