My husband and I had left the US for a month to visit out of country and had to vacate our apartment before leaving. We left our two dogs with my parents when we left. Before returning I asked my parents if we could stay with them when we return to the US and we have been for at least 5 weeks now. The problem is that my mother treats me with little respect on a daily basis. My dog had puppies while staying with my parents and my mother nags me daily in regards to these puppies or my dogs. Even though my husband and I are married my parents will only come to me about things. I try to keep the puppies in an area where they will not pee on their carpet but my mother says they should be out to play, yet she gets upset with me if I am not watching them although she took them out.
Recently she let them out and about in her living room. My husband was on the couch while I was in a back room relaxing. She came all the way in the back room to say I needed to mop the floor tomorrow because my puppies peed in her kitchen. I asked why she couldn't talk to my husband about this and I was upset that she let them out when I wasn't around yet insisted on coming to me to criticize me for not watching them. It was almost midnight and she had already come in once before to complain to me so I left the house. My husband convinced me to come back to get him after 30 minutes. He claimed he wanted to talk with me about it, but when we talked about it during a car drive the talk ended with him getting mad at me for getting angry with my parents all the time. He even slammed the car door. Ever since we have stayed here I have had to deal with giving my parents money (They didn't ask my husband) for staying with them, being told I don't know how to take care of my dogs or clean up after myself, been asked to fold other people's laundry, and am complained to daily regarding my dogs. I am upset because they don't even try to ask my husband to do anything or complain to him, just me. They don't treat me with respect either. How can I get my husband to understand that I need him to actually tell them firmly that he is also here to help? (He told me he brought it up once, but that it wasn't a conversation and they just brushed him off.) My mom causes the most problems, but I always end up in a screaming match with her...also my dad just makes negative comments to me when I talk to him. Example: He mentioned being low on towels and asked me to do them. I replied by saying I was already going to. He then said I could have done it 3 hours ago if I hadn't slept in until noon.
Sorry for the long story. Thanks for reading.
Recently she let them out and about in her living room. My husband was on the couch while I was in a back room relaxing. She came all the way in the back room to say I needed to mop the floor tomorrow because my puppies peed in her kitchen. I asked why she couldn't talk to my husband about this and I was upset that she let them out when I wasn't around yet insisted on coming to me to criticize me for not watching them. It was almost midnight and she had already come in once before to complain to me so I left the house. My husband convinced me to come back to get him after 30 minutes. He claimed he wanted to talk with me about it, but when we talked about it during a car drive the talk ended with him getting mad at me for getting angry with my parents all the time. He even slammed the car door. Ever since we have stayed here I have had to deal with giving my parents money (They didn't ask my husband) for staying with them, being told I don't know how to take care of my dogs or clean up after myself, been asked to fold other people's laundry, and am complained to daily regarding my dogs. I am upset because they don't even try to ask my husband to do anything or complain to him, just me. They don't treat me with respect either. How can I get my husband to understand that I need him to actually tell them firmly that he is also here to help? (He told me he brought it up once, but that it wasn't a conversation and they just brushed him off.) My mom causes the most problems, but I always end up in a screaming match with her...also my dad just makes negative comments to me when I talk to him. Example: He mentioned being low on towels and asked me to do them. I replied by saying I was already going to. He then said I could have done it 3 hours ago if I hadn't slept in until noon.
Sorry for the long story. Thanks for reading.
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