Hey All, I'm rather new to discussing my sex life in a public forum, but a couple years ago after really researching my marital issues I stumbled across MMSL and this site and No more mr nice guy (NMMNG) and the like.
I liked the MMSL forum and I got a lot of good help from a couple of great men. Some advice that woke me the fudge up and smacked me over the head with a 2x4. I went from having crappy sex once a week maybe - to having ok sex 2-3 times a week...and my wife was generally in a better mood.
As a result of finding some success (partly from MMSL but mostly from these other MEN) I felt the desire to "give back" and so I continued to post based on some things I had learned about not being such a beta care taking schlub and acting like a man of purpose, value, vision, success, and owning my sexuality!
Apparently I struck a chord when I posted that I disagreed with one of the moderators over there. I tried to be nice about it but as a public forum open for discussion I felt my comment had weight....especially because it was directed at a woman with a husband who was looking elsewhere and I was that same type of guy many years ago.
I'm posting this here since many people here may have been in dialog with me over there or seen my threads or posts, so that I can set the record straight. I'm not a selfish arsehole that wants to cause trouble. If I hurt someone's feelings then I apologized and made peace. But in this case I was making a point that I was recovered cheating spouse and so my point of view was a valid one, something struck a chord and no matter how I tried to make peace it wasn't accepted. I'm not trying to write a book or create a new method of counseling or coaching - I was just posting my opinion (which is what I thought forums were for).
Anyway - I look forward to posting my experiences and opinions elsewhere if I am not invited back. As well as posting my questions or concerns about my marriage so that I can continue down the path of improvement.
If anyone from MMSL is interested in debating why I should or shouldn't have been banned/deleted that is fine - I just hope ya'll understand I am not looking for a fight and I'm not out to prove anyone right or wrong. I am all about working with people toward good relationships - I really don't have any enemies and I hope Athol and company don't think of me as that.
Peace.
I liked the MMSL forum and I got a lot of good help from a couple of great men. Some advice that woke me the fudge up and smacked me over the head with a 2x4. I went from having crappy sex once a week maybe - to having ok sex 2-3 times a week...and my wife was generally in a better mood.
As a result of finding some success (partly from MMSL but mostly from these other MEN) I felt the desire to "give back" and so I continued to post based on some things I had learned about not being such a beta care taking schlub and acting like a man of purpose, value, vision, success, and owning my sexuality!
Apparently I struck a chord when I posted that I disagreed with one of the moderators over there. I tried to be nice about it but as a public forum open for discussion I felt my comment had weight....especially because it was directed at a woman with a husband who was looking elsewhere and I was that same type of guy many years ago.
I'm posting this here since many people here may have been in dialog with me over there or seen my threads or posts, so that I can set the record straight. I'm not a selfish arsehole that wants to cause trouble. If I hurt someone's feelings then I apologized and made peace. But in this case I was making a point that I was recovered cheating spouse and so my point of view was a valid one, something struck a chord and no matter how I tried to make peace it wasn't accepted. I'm not trying to write a book or create a new method of counseling or coaching - I was just posting my opinion (which is what I thought forums were for).
Anyway - I look forward to posting my experiences and opinions elsewhere if I am not invited back. As well as posting my questions or concerns about my marriage so that I can continue down the path of improvement.
If anyone from MMSL is interested in debating why I should or shouldn't have been banned/deleted that is fine - I just hope ya'll understand I am not looking for a fight and I'm not out to prove anyone right or wrong. I am all about working with people toward good relationships - I really don't have any enemies and I hope Athol and company don't think of me as that.
Peace.
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