I wanted to get some insight on this situation since it is one I have never had any experience with before.
My husband and I live in Norway. He has a 5 year old son who lives with his ex-girlfriend in England. From the beginning of our relationship, my husband has been very open about his relationship with her, that they are still friends and try to get along as best they can for the sake of their son. I have never been with anyone who has a child from a previous relationship, so this has been a new experience for me. I know his son comes first, and I need to be respectful of the relationship he has with his son's mother. I have asked though, that him and her not talk about personal matters regarding me or our marriage.
Well last night, he told me that she has invited him to join her and their son for a trip to Poland in a few months to see her parents. She told him that her parents would really love to see him (my husband). He told me he would really like to go as it's one of his favorite places. I'm not invited, however, because I'm currently awaiting on getting residency and I can't leave the country until my application has been approved. If, by some miracle my application does go through before this trip, he still doesn't think it'd be a good idea for me to go as they all speak in Polish (her parents hardly speak English) and he thinks it would be an uncomfortable situation for me. Honestly, I don't want him to go. I'm not comfortable with him spending a little vacation with her. But of course I know that's selfish because he wants to see and spend time with his son and I don't want to get in the way of that. He's going for his son, not her and I know that.
This is just a difficult situation to be in. Am I wrong for feeling this way and not wanting him to go? Is it normal to have these feelings?
My husband and I live in Norway. He has a 5 year old son who lives with his ex-girlfriend in England. From the beginning of our relationship, my husband has been very open about his relationship with her, that they are still friends and try to get along as best they can for the sake of their son. I have never been with anyone who has a child from a previous relationship, so this has been a new experience for me. I know his son comes first, and I need to be respectful of the relationship he has with his son's mother. I have asked though, that him and her not talk about personal matters regarding me or our marriage.
Well last night, he told me that she has invited him to join her and their son for a trip to Poland in a few months to see her parents. She told him that her parents would really love to see him (my husband). He told me he would really like to go as it's one of his favorite places. I'm not invited, however, because I'm currently awaiting on getting residency and I can't leave the country until my application has been approved. If, by some miracle my application does go through before this trip, he still doesn't think it'd be a good idea for me to go as they all speak in Polish (her parents hardly speak English) and he thinks it would be an uncomfortable situation for me. Honestly, I don't want him to go. I'm not comfortable with him spending a little vacation with her. But of course I know that's selfish because he wants to see and spend time with his son and I don't want to get in the way of that. He's going for his son, not her and I know that.
This is just a difficult situation to be in. Am I wrong for feeling this way and not wanting him to go? Is it normal to have these feelings?
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