After 12 years together. 9 years of marriage 3 children. My hus band want to call time on our relationship. I'm not ready to give up. Any ideas on how I can help turn this around. We took time and didn't rush into marriage. He had a plan and goals of what he wanted from life. I shared a lot of thous goals and loved his drive and ambition.
Life has gone 90% the way he wanted and life is as I expected it to be. Romance and sex drive fades with kids. I except a lot of response ability for that. I thought that as this is a life style that we both chouse that we would go through a stale patch and get stuck in a rut, but that once the kids got older we would reconnect and get back to a more romantic relationship.
I have been trying and communicating for the last 2 years to work at reconnecting with my husband. After false promises of let's work at this and no action on his part. We had a good talk and he's told me that he doesn't love me anymore. That's why he's not tried. I've been very upset with this which stocked him. He's agreed to go to counciling and I have said if he does what to work at this relationship I need him to find 1 and book us an appointment. So I'm waiting.
I can felel him slipping more away each day. We are now in separate bedrooms and the waiting for him to deside if he wants to work at saving our marriage and what he wants in life. Each day I'm been eaten up a little more inside.
Any ideas on what I can do ? I don't want to to be the nagging self pitying wife as that's not attractive one bit. But I need to do sometime or I'm going to be a crying scream wife shouting why don't you love me. Which let's face it no one wants.
Life has gone 90% the way he wanted and life is as I expected it to be. Romance and sex drive fades with kids. I except a lot of response ability for that. I thought that as this is a life style that we both chouse that we would go through a stale patch and get stuck in a rut, but that once the kids got older we would reconnect and get back to a more romantic relationship.
I have been trying and communicating for the last 2 years to work at reconnecting with my husband. After false promises of let's work at this and no action on his part. We had a good talk and he's told me that he doesn't love me anymore. That's why he's not tried. I've been very upset with this which stocked him. He's agreed to go to counciling and I have said if he does what to work at this relationship I need him to find 1 and book us an appointment. So I'm waiting.
I can felel him slipping more away each day. We are now in separate bedrooms and the waiting for him to deside if he wants to work at saving our marriage and what he wants in life. Each day I'm been eaten up a little more inside.
Any ideas on what I can do ? I don't want to to be the nagging self pitying wife as that's not attractive one bit. But I need to do sometime or I'm going to be a crying scream wife shouting why don't you love me. Which let's face it no one wants.
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