we have been married for 5 yr and have a little girl who is 3. please help me understand my husband's behaviour. he has always been a fan of bjs and i was ok with giving them because i wanted to satisfy him and make him happy- and i loved him (not really sure that i do anymore). when he wants a bj he just says "get over here". i have to do it, if i refuse, the nightmare starts...
He withholds sex and affection, he refuses to help me with household duties, he picks up fights: nothing is good anymore, the house is not clean enough, the foods is not ok. He starts with the name calling, yelling all in front of our child. he also tells her: "you see how bad your mother is, she doesn't love us, she wants to tear this family apart". belive me it's hearbreaking for me! He would lock himself in the room with our kid and won't let me in. When i try to enter, he screams to leave them alone...my little girl is already turned against me. When i don't let her get her way, she tells me she doesn't love me!! If 2 days pass and I don't give in to my husband's request, he picks up a fight again and during the argument he gets violent: he slapped me 2 times, shoved me but nothing more serious. So, I always give in and I started to hate bjs and I also started hating him. i don't understand him, because i give him bjs, but when i feel like it, not when he asks for it! I m ust perform when he wants it and if i dare to say no the story from above unfolds. I tried to talk to him, to explain that i also need affection, hugs, kisses, but he just doesn't want to listen. He tells me if I don't like it, to pack my stuff and get out (it is his house). i am so hurt, i feel used and unloved, please help me understand why does he do this....I want my daughether to have a father, but I cannot take the humilliation anymore...
He withholds sex and affection, he refuses to help me with household duties, he picks up fights: nothing is good anymore, the house is not clean enough, the foods is not ok. He starts with the name calling, yelling all in front of our child. he also tells her: "you see how bad your mother is, she doesn't love us, she wants to tear this family apart". belive me it's hearbreaking for me! He would lock himself in the room with our kid and won't let me in. When i try to enter, he screams to leave them alone...my little girl is already turned against me. When i don't let her get her way, she tells me she doesn't love me!! If 2 days pass and I don't give in to my husband's request, he picks up a fight again and during the argument he gets violent: he slapped me 2 times, shoved me but nothing more serious. So, I always give in and I started to hate bjs and I also started hating him. i don't understand him, because i give him bjs, but when i feel like it, not when he asks for it! I m ust perform when he wants it and if i dare to say no the story from above unfolds. I tried to talk to him, to explain that i also need affection, hugs, kisses, but he just doesn't want to listen. He tells me if I don't like it, to pack my stuff and get out (it is his house). i am so hurt, i feel used and unloved, please help me understand why does he do this....I want my daughether to have a father, but I cannot take the humilliation anymore...
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