We have had some strains in the relationship. A year ago my mom and nephew lived with us for about 6 months, they weren't a problem but alone time in the house we just purchased was lacking. We actually didn't get married until September, my family still there and then his family came from Ireland to stay for a month as well.
We had out first baby in December and in March my sister from another state was getting separated and came to stay with us. Her kids were a lil outta control and he complained to me but I said nothing (I realize now how much of a mistake that was) he had a chat with her and things were ok but on mothers day he saw something had spilled on the carpet and my sister was away with TX for a hearing and he flipped, packed all her things and put in the garage and told her, her **** was packed and she was not welcome anymore. I was so upset it was handled that way and on my first mothers days of all days that I left for a week to stay with my other sister.
I came back things went down hill. He said when I left he thought of that as being disloyal to him but he could not see how it hurt me. His family came out again, dad for a month then mom for a month and he said we would work on things when his family was gone and it was just us bc we were both still upset. My family loved him to death and though they said nothing to him and encourage me to go back home he hated them and blamed and still blames them for this.
Two weeks ago he's snuggling me in bed and one day tells me how he feels like a crappy husband and father and we deserve better? Then last week my sister wanted to borrow OUR mower and I asked him and he flipped saying how they're trying to get in between us and I told him things were never gonna be the same but he at least needed to make some effort to get to a cordial spot and he told me he was going to be the bigger person and break up with me.
I went thru his FB(another huge mistake) and saw where he had told someone he was recently smoking weed when he woke and before bed, I totally flipped b/c he was the one taking our daughter to the sitter in the mornings.
I keep begging and pleading but he keeps saying he's done and it's over. I asked for counseling and everything and he just keeps saying there's no point and says it will go back to the way it was. He also told me he didn't love me, but he was acting all lovey dovey the week before?? He is really torn up about this and when he told me it was done and over yesterday he was even crying. I am so confused if he is being stubborn and rash like in the past or if it's real this time. Space or keep begging?? I am so scared this is real and I don't know what to do. Sorry so long but any advice appreciated!!
We had out first baby in December and in March my sister from another state was getting separated and came to stay with us. Her kids were a lil outta control and he complained to me but I said nothing (I realize now how much of a mistake that was) he had a chat with her and things were ok but on mothers day he saw something had spilled on the carpet and my sister was away with TX for a hearing and he flipped, packed all her things and put in the garage and told her, her **** was packed and she was not welcome anymore. I was so upset it was handled that way and on my first mothers days of all days that I left for a week to stay with my other sister.
I came back things went down hill. He said when I left he thought of that as being disloyal to him but he could not see how it hurt me. His family came out again, dad for a month then mom for a month and he said we would work on things when his family was gone and it was just us bc we were both still upset. My family loved him to death and though they said nothing to him and encourage me to go back home he hated them and blamed and still blames them for this.
Two weeks ago he's snuggling me in bed and one day tells me how he feels like a crappy husband and father and we deserve better? Then last week my sister wanted to borrow OUR mower and I asked him and he flipped saying how they're trying to get in between us and I told him things were never gonna be the same but he at least needed to make some effort to get to a cordial spot and he told me he was going to be the bigger person and break up with me.
I went thru his FB(another huge mistake) and saw where he had told someone he was recently smoking weed when he woke and before bed, I totally flipped b/c he was the one taking our daughter to the sitter in the mornings.
I keep begging and pleading but he keeps saying he's done and it's over. I asked for counseling and everything and he just keeps saying there's no point and says it will go back to the way it was. He also told me he didn't love me, but he was acting all lovey dovey the week before?? He is really torn up about this and when he told me it was done and over yesterday he was even crying. I am so confused if he is being stubborn and rash like in the past or if it's real this time. Space or keep begging?? I am so scared this is real and I don't know what to do. Sorry so long but any advice appreciated!!
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