We are in a young relationship and have fallen in love. Everything has been great until the other night when she drops a bombshell on me. Apparently, her cousin and her husband had an argument to the point where the cops had to come and the husband goes to jail on a domestic violence charge. He gets out of jail and she moves him in! He can't go home because of an automatic protective order. So there is a man, alone, living with my girlfriend.
I have serious trust issues and told her this is not ok. She says she is trying to help her cousin who has his child so they can get their lives back together. They have no friends and no options. He can't be at the house by the order. I said can't they both stay with you as a couple? No- the order.
They are both at my girlfriend's house all the time violating the order anyway, so I don't see why they can't just go home, keep a low profile and work it out on their own. I don't want another man in her house! Am I being unreasonable?
She told them this situation makes me extremely uncomfortable and the response was "Oh Well". When I ask what they are doing to fix it (find a lawyer, make a plan, etc) I get pushed back and told let me handle it.
My girlfriend has agreed to stay with me most nights while he's there, but it is tough and a lot of late nights and early mornings. She has a 16 year old son and it's tough on him too. Last night she says he is going home to spend the night with his wife (against the order-again) but his truck was at her house because the cops might see it at her house. She slept at her house last night. It sounded like the perfect excuse. I don't think anything is going on, but I don't want to be naive. I said I was coming over (calling a bluff) and she said ok. I didn't go. I feel like these people who have messed up their lives are messing up ours too. I'm so angry I don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.
I have serious trust issues and told her this is not ok. She says she is trying to help her cousin who has his child so they can get their lives back together. They have no friends and no options. He can't be at the house by the order. I said can't they both stay with you as a couple? No- the order.
They are both at my girlfriend's house all the time violating the order anyway, so I don't see why they can't just go home, keep a low profile and work it out on their own. I don't want another man in her house! Am I being unreasonable?
She told them this situation makes me extremely uncomfortable and the response was "Oh Well". When I ask what they are doing to fix it (find a lawyer, make a plan, etc) I get pushed back and told let me handle it.
My girlfriend has agreed to stay with me most nights while he's there, but it is tough and a lot of late nights and early mornings. She has a 16 year old son and it's tough on him too. Last night she says he is going home to spend the night with his wife (against the order-again) but his truck was at her house because the cops might see it at her house. She slept at her house last night. It sounded like the perfect excuse. I don't think anything is going on, but I don't want to be naive. I said I was coming over (calling a bluff) and she said ok. I didn't go. I feel like these people who have messed up their lives are messing up ours too. I'm so angry I don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.
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