Some of you may know my history here on TAM and this is my first post in the considering divorce forum.
To make a long story short, I'm in a marriage that lacks intimacy, sex and affection. I'm starting to seriously think my wife does not love me and perhaps never has. Me? I want to love her and know I can if she'd let me. The thing is, on days when I want to give 100%, I often feel rejected...like "you miss me already"? "It has to be a quickie", etc...Then on days when I just don't care anymore I let the resentment get the best of me and the arguments start. Of course, this only pushes us further away. It's like damned if I do, damned if I don't.
I take equal responsibility for the state we're in.
From somebody who's been on TAM for a while now, is counseling worth a shot? I really hate the person I'm becoming and having a tough time on whether to throw in the towel, or give it my all.
To make a long story short, I'm in a marriage that lacks intimacy, sex and affection. I'm starting to seriously think my wife does not love me and perhaps never has. Me? I want to love her and know I can if she'd let me. The thing is, on days when I want to give 100%, I often feel rejected...like "you miss me already"? "It has to be a quickie", etc...Then on days when I just don't care anymore I let the resentment get the best of me and the arguments start. Of course, this only pushes us further away. It's like damned if I do, damned if I don't.
I take equal responsibility for the state we're in.
From somebody who's been on TAM for a while now, is counseling worth a shot? I really hate the person I'm becoming and having a tough time on whether to throw in the towel, or give it my all.
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