When my H told me he wanted a separation a month ago someone recommended that I read Divorce Remedy Program which talks about the 180 technique. What I didn't know at the time I bought the book was that my H read the same book when he was fighting to save the his marriage with his ex-wife.
Well I started doing the 180 technique about 2-3 weeks after he told me about the separation which was basically right after Thanksgiving. So I've been doing it since then. In our last MC session (which he doesn't want to do MC anymore) he told me that I'm not acting the way I normally do and that I'm doing things on my own and acting different to manipulate him into going back to me because that's what I read in the book. The therapist asked me to clarify what I was doing (she didn't know about the book) and I told her that yes I was reading the book and that it was suggested that I do that in the book but in reality that I'm trying to find my life again and start doing things for myself again....something I didn't do through our marriage. I told the therapist that my H is going out with his friends and having a good time and I'm at home taking care of our 7-month old. So the therapist said to my H that it seems to her that I'm moving on with my life which he is doing a s well.
So my question is....can the 180 technique work for me even though I did the begging, pleading, etc for the first 2-3 weeks and that he knows about this technique? It seems like he's moving further and further away from me as I've been doing the 180 rather than coming more towards me. We still live in the same house until the house sells.
Well I started doing the 180 technique about 2-3 weeks after he told me about the separation which was basically right after Thanksgiving. So I've been doing it since then. In our last MC session (which he doesn't want to do MC anymore) he told me that I'm not acting the way I normally do and that I'm doing things on my own and acting different to manipulate him into going back to me because that's what I read in the book. The therapist asked me to clarify what I was doing (she didn't know about the book) and I told her that yes I was reading the book and that it was suggested that I do that in the book but in reality that I'm trying to find my life again and start doing things for myself again....something I didn't do through our marriage. I told the therapist that my H is going out with his friends and having a good time and I'm at home taking care of our 7-month old. So the therapist said to my H that it seems to her that I'm moving on with my life which he is doing a s well.
So my question is....can the 180 technique work for me even though I did the begging, pleading, etc for the first 2-3 weeks and that he knows about this technique? It seems like he's moving further and further away from me as I've been doing the 180 rather than coming more towards me. We still live in the same house until the house sells.
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