Hello everyone,
I'm new here. I have a dilemma. I have pretty much thrown in the towel and given up on love. I am in my 30s and have had a string of one bad relationship after another.
I know the first thing people might advise is "Look at yourself and see what you are doing wrong. I have done that, for a couple of years while taking a break from relationships altogether. I felt renewed and ready to get back in the dating game, which I did and was, well, at least thought I was successful with this last guy I dated.
Things were going great at least I thought it was until he dropped a bomb on me that he had gone on dates with other women while he and I were still together. Before, I would have cried, thrown a tantrum and other manner of emotional expression.
But this time, I didn't. I told him it was over and haven't talked to him since. Yes, it was very abrupt to break up with this guy but I felt no use in wasting time hearing lies and excuses from him.
I did love him but I feel like I am emotionally drained and no longer capable or willing to give my heart to someone because it seems like as soon as I show a little bit of vulnerability, my heart gets broken. I don't like to play the victim when relationships don't work out. But I am constantly wondering "What did I do wrong?" when the relationships end.
As a result of this, I have given up on love. It hurts to give your all in relationships, show your vulnerable side to someone only to have them break your heart. I have just resolved to being single, which sounds better than walking around with a broken heart and bitter.
Maybe some insight may help? Thanks in advance.
I'm new here. I have a dilemma. I have pretty much thrown in the towel and given up on love. I am in my 30s and have had a string of one bad relationship after another.
I know the first thing people might advise is "Look at yourself and see what you are doing wrong. I have done that, for a couple of years while taking a break from relationships altogether. I felt renewed and ready to get back in the dating game, which I did and was, well, at least thought I was successful with this last guy I dated.
Things were going great at least I thought it was until he dropped a bomb on me that he had gone on dates with other women while he and I were still together. Before, I would have cried, thrown a tantrum and other manner of emotional expression.
But this time, I didn't. I told him it was over and haven't talked to him since. Yes, it was very abrupt to break up with this guy but I felt no use in wasting time hearing lies and excuses from him.
I did love him but I feel like I am emotionally drained and no longer capable or willing to give my heart to someone because it seems like as soon as I show a little bit of vulnerability, my heart gets broken. I don't like to play the victim when relationships don't work out. But I am constantly wondering "What did I do wrong?" when the relationships end.
As a result of this, I have given up on love. It hurts to give your all in relationships, show your vulnerable side to someone only to have them break your heart. I have just resolved to being single, which sounds better than walking around with a broken heart and bitter.
Maybe some insight may help? Thanks in advance.
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