I'm attracted to a guy at school; he's intelligent, mature, polite, but also exceptionally quiet and/or anti-social. We're not in any of the same classes, so the only times I can talk to him is when we happen to meet in the hallway, or at the library after school.
A few months ago, I decided to start going to the library after school every Friday. I had only spoken to him once before, but he randomly sat next to me, remembered my name, and started talking to me. We found out that we have a lot in common, and laughed quite a lot. Needless to say, I left with butterflies in my stomach. It turns out that he frequents the library after school on a Friday, and we had quite a few meetings with one another.
The problem is, he doesn't really talk to me outside of our normal Friday meetings. Everytime I see him in the hallway, I am always the one who has to initiate conversation with him. Last Friday he saw me in the hallway and didn't say anything; it was only when I said hello to him that he turned around and replied, but then turned his back to me and kept on walking. I ask him how his classes are going, that I listened to the music he suggested, but he just smiles and laughs.
He's a bit of a loner; he's popular with people, but he doesn't have a group of friends he hangs around with at school, and I've heard people describe him as 'boring' and 'quiet' before [which confused me because he was always conversational with me in the library]. I've been told that I could do better than him, and that I'm out of his league, which makes me think that maybe I've scared him off [especially because I get a lot of male attention at school, which I'm pretty sure he has seen/heard about, although I just laugh it off - I'm quite shy and known as being quite innocent].
Weirdly, in the past few weeks he's stopped coming to the library on Fridays after school. I've told a few people that I like him, and unfortunately it's been heard by quite a few students. Someone hinted to him that he should get to know me better, and apparently he said that he doesn't think he should date someone from school. As a result, I don't think he reciprocates my feelings, and perhaps that's why he isn't being social with me anymore.
Do you think I should continue making the effort to pursue him, even though he's behaving like this? I really like him, but I seem to not be able to talk to him at all! It feels like he's completely shut me out and is avoiding me; trying to talk to him takes so much effort from my side, and it has become very awkward. & is he just being his 'usual' shy/quiet self, or has he found out that I'm attracted to him and is zoning me out in retaliation?
A few months ago, I decided to start going to the library after school every Friday. I had only spoken to him once before, but he randomly sat next to me, remembered my name, and started talking to me. We found out that we have a lot in common, and laughed quite a lot. Needless to say, I left with butterflies in my stomach. It turns out that he frequents the library after school on a Friday, and we had quite a few meetings with one another.
The problem is, he doesn't really talk to me outside of our normal Friday meetings. Everytime I see him in the hallway, I am always the one who has to initiate conversation with him. Last Friday he saw me in the hallway and didn't say anything; it was only when I said hello to him that he turned around and replied, but then turned his back to me and kept on walking. I ask him how his classes are going, that I listened to the music he suggested, but he just smiles and laughs.
He's a bit of a loner; he's popular with people, but he doesn't have a group of friends he hangs around with at school, and I've heard people describe him as 'boring' and 'quiet' before [which confused me because he was always conversational with me in the library]. I've been told that I could do better than him, and that I'm out of his league, which makes me think that maybe I've scared him off [especially because I get a lot of male attention at school, which I'm pretty sure he has seen/heard about, although I just laugh it off - I'm quite shy and known as being quite innocent].
Weirdly, in the past few weeks he's stopped coming to the library on Fridays after school. I've told a few people that I like him, and unfortunately it's been heard by quite a few students. Someone hinted to him that he should get to know me better, and apparently he said that he doesn't think he should date someone from school. As a result, I don't think he reciprocates my feelings, and perhaps that's why he isn't being social with me anymore.
Do you think I should continue making the effort to pursue him, even though he's behaving like this? I really like him, but I seem to not be able to talk to him at all! It feels like he's completely shut me out and is avoiding me; trying to talk to him takes so much effort from my side, and it has become very awkward. & is he just being his 'usual' shy/quiet self, or has he found out that I'm attracted to him and is zoning me out in retaliation?
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