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Wife and I have been together 9 years and have a 3 year old daughter. I work full time while my wife is a stay at home mom. My work hours are normal, 7-4 or 7-5.. putting me home around between 5 and 6. We opted to have our daughter less than a year after marriage (now married 4+ years). We have had plenty of fights and dissagreeements from everything to household issues, parenting issues, etc. I have made it a point to listen to my wife's desire early on to do adult things together, childless. We've gone on overnights, dates, etc without the child. My wife has often debated working part time or getting a certification in something different(she has degree) and I have always supported these ideas and 100% backed them. She has also gone away with her girlfriend on some short getaways, and even one week away with 4 other women. I always thought these were great opportunities for her to get out and be herself, instead of her mom/wife self.
Well a few weeks ago, my wife decided she needed space, in what seemingly came from nowhere. She opted to stay at her parents with our daugter for 3 days, and she knew I was distraught. When she came home, we had a long talk, where I listened and let her vent and tell me everything. The summary: she is unhappy because of things I've done, lack of respect for her role in the family, lack of independence, unfamiliar with who she is today, and the tense household that it can be here often.
Shes been staying home now for a week, but she seems very cold with regards to affection. When I hug her or hold her hand, it seems like I'm forcing it. I've recently started to pull back a little, and even asked her if my affection was unwelcome at this time. She said it wasnt, but her vibe tells a different story. We are going to counseling on Thurs of this coming week. Does anyone have any stories about a wife in this situation? How should I be handling this? It is tearing me up inside, because I am worried that she is slowly pulling herself away until she is officially ready to separate. My heart is 100% broken.
Wife and I have been together 9 years and have a 3 year old daughter. I work full time while my wife is a stay at home mom. My work hours are normal, 7-4 or 7-5.. putting me home around between 5 and 6. We opted to have our daughter less than a year after marriage (now married 4+ years). We have had plenty of fights and dissagreeements from everything to household issues, parenting issues, etc. I have made it a point to listen to my wife's desire early on to do adult things together, childless. We've gone on overnights, dates, etc without the child. My wife has often debated working part time or getting a certification in something different(she has degree) and I have always supported these ideas and 100% backed them. She has also gone away with her girlfriend on some short getaways, and even one week away with 4 other women. I always thought these were great opportunities for her to get out and be herself, instead of her mom/wife self.
Well a few weeks ago, my wife decided she needed space, in what seemingly came from nowhere. She opted to stay at her parents with our daugter for 3 days, and she knew I was distraught. When she came home, we had a long talk, where I listened and let her vent and tell me everything. The summary: she is unhappy because of things I've done, lack of respect for her role in the family, lack of independence, unfamiliar with who she is today, and the tense household that it can be here often.
Shes been staying home now for a week, but she seems very cold with regards to affection. When I hug her or hold her hand, it seems like I'm forcing it. I've recently started to pull back a little, and even asked her if my affection was unwelcome at this time. She said it wasnt, but her vibe tells a different story. We are going to counseling on Thurs of this coming week. Does anyone have any stories about a wife in this situation? How should I be handling this? It is tearing me up inside, because I am worried that she is slowly pulling herself away until she is officially ready to separate. My heart is 100% broken.
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