And I have no idea how to react or what to say to her...
We are not close friends, (we both have a lot of issues trusting other women), but we live very close and see each other all the time. Yesterday she was talking to me about some relationship problems she's having.. And she dropped that she has hit her partner (who I also see all the time as they live together). She has hit him, "but it doesn't hurt him that bad".. She told me that during arguments, she has raised her hand to strike his face, but she slows her movement down just as her hand is about to make contact.. This doesn't make it any better, I know. I was so shocked I barely knew what to say.. She didn't seem remorseful at all, or really seemed to just come across as very feeling about it at all... The most amount of remorse was when she said she knew it was bad. I told her, that even if it didn't physically hurt, it can cause a lot if emotional pain... bur again it didn't seem to take..
The ironic thing is that we begun conversing because of HIS problems... But now it really seems like a big source of his problems are actually her..
The thing is.. What do I do? I feel like this is none if my business, but someone is getting hurt, and it still at least seemed that she was very prepared to talk about the issues she is having with him. It just feels like she doesn't want to work on her own problems.
Also, for some reason, I am slightly scared of her, though I have no idea how much that has to do with my own personal issues / lacking trust of women in general. There are things she says that just feel very... *off*. Like she told me - albeit jokingly - that I'm "such a s**t girlfriend" to my own partner, because I laughed when she told me of the past when my partner had a crush on her and she declined him and he wrote up sad journals online. (What am I to say? I don't know). Perhaps I took it too literally when she didn't mean any harm by it.
However.. She has been saying often how much she likes me and misses me even right after I've left her place. She messages me a lot. But I don't know how to handle any of this. I'm 26 and have been without female companionship from any woman who isn't family since I was under 13. I have good intentions, but I feel quite worried about this situation.
I also don't trust what she says about MY partner (someone she has known far longer than me). She has, in the past, used her knowledge of him against me (e.g telling me that "it's surprising he is going out with someone like you" being as "he told me ages ago he likes women with green eyes, small noses.. Etc etc" - all things I don't have)..
We are not close friends, (we both have a lot of issues trusting other women), but we live very close and see each other all the time. Yesterday she was talking to me about some relationship problems she's having.. And she dropped that she has hit her partner (who I also see all the time as they live together). She has hit him, "but it doesn't hurt him that bad".. She told me that during arguments, she has raised her hand to strike his face, but she slows her movement down just as her hand is about to make contact.. This doesn't make it any better, I know. I was so shocked I barely knew what to say.. She didn't seem remorseful at all, or really seemed to just come across as very feeling about it at all... The most amount of remorse was when she said she knew it was bad. I told her, that even if it didn't physically hurt, it can cause a lot if emotional pain... bur again it didn't seem to take..
The ironic thing is that we begun conversing because of HIS problems... But now it really seems like a big source of his problems are actually her..
The thing is.. What do I do? I feel like this is none if my business, but someone is getting hurt, and it still at least seemed that she was very prepared to talk about the issues she is having with him. It just feels like she doesn't want to work on her own problems.
Also, for some reason, I am slightly scared of her, though I have no idea how much that has to do with my own personal issues / lacking trust of women in general. There are things she says that just feel very... *off*. Like she told me - albeit jokingly - that I'm "such a s**t girlfriend" to my own partner, because I laughed when she told me of the past when my partner had a crush on her and she declined him and he wrote up sad journals online. (What am I to say? I don't know). Perhaps I took it too literally when she didn't mean any harm by it.
However.. She has been saying often how much she likes me and misses me even right after I've left her place. She messages me a lot. But I don't know how to handle any of this. I'm 26 and have been without female companionship from any woman who isn't family since I was under 13. I have good intentions, but I feel quite worried about this situation.
I also don't trust what she says about MY partner (someone she has known far longer than me). She has, in the past, used her knowledge of him against me (e.g telling me that "it's surprising he is going out with someone like you" being as "he told me ages ago he likes women with green eyes, small noses.. Etc etc" - all things I don't have)..
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