Hi,
I have been married 20 years now and discovered a few years into my marriage my husband enjoyed cross dressing. I allowed him to do this in front of me but found it very disturbing and sexually unappealling. Two children later I have had a roller coaster of a marriage - as has he. He stopped X dressing so obviously due to having the children grow up, but started to wear eye make up on a daily basis, I couldn't cope so this went to just mascara. The mascara went when he realised I could not look him in the face. This has been replaced by wearing womens ankle boots under his jeans. My 6 ft husband is now 7 ft on a daily basis. Under his jeans are womens pants, stockings and one of 30+ pairs of womens boots. I guess his jeans sort of hide the heel, but I am just exploding inside with the stress of it all. He is a gentle man who wants to love and be loved, but all I can do is obsess over this. He refuses to stop wearing them, saying they do no harm and no one else treats him like a freak. He buys at least 1 pair a week. I want to try to make this marriage work for the sake of the children at least, but I am deeply saddened and basically miserable to be around!! I need a sense of perspective and to try and look at the good and not obsess over this...but easier said than done. He has given up a lot of his tendencies for me but...I AM NOT DEALING WITH it! Please advise
I have been married 20 years now and discovered a few years into my marriage my husband enjoyed cross dressing. I allowed him to do this in front of me but found it very disturbing and sexually unappealling. Two children later I have had a roller coaster of a marriage - as has he. He stopped X dressing so obviously due to having the children grow up, but started to wear eye make up on a daily basis, I couldn't cope so this went to just mascara. The mascara went when he realised I could not look him in the face. This has been replaced by wearing womens ankle boots under his jeans. My 6 ft husband is now 7 ft on a daily basis. Under his jeans are womens pants, stockings and one of 30+ pairs of womens boots. I guess his jeans sort of hide the heel, but I am just exploding inside with the stress of it all. He is a gentle man who wants to love and be loved, but all I can do is obsess over this. He refuses to stop wearing them, saying they do no harm and no one else treats him like a freak. He buys at least 1 pair a week. I want to try to make this marriage work for the sake of the children at least, but I am deeply saddened and basically miserable to be around!! I need a sense of perspective and to try and look at the good and not obsess over this...but easier said than done. He has given up a lot of his tendencies for me but...I AM NOT DEALING WITH it! Please advise
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