I am a regular poster here and I suppose quite well known. I usually reply to threads which are not yet two pages long since I cant really read so many pages.
I dont usually copy other posters but instead bring something 'new' into it. I am also blunt and not afraid to apply blame where I think its due. I am totally against divorce unless it cant be helped and will agree to try anything to save a marriage.
Where I think a poster is not serious or has cheated I wont usually answer to help. On the other hand I dont think every problem stems from this fact.
I make my replies as short as possible and really count the words.
What I do notice is that most OP's will not come back and reply to me. They will neither agree or deny, to anything I have read 'between' the lines or to reply to my suggestions which are often different to other posters.
Am I write in saying that some people dont really want to be helped? Or to put it another way, since being helped always means some changes are needed and people are just not prepared to do that and would rather live in misery or divorce.
My original post does not seem to have been fully understood so I am now editing it.
Many posters if not most, are not here for advice of what to do but to find out what they do wrong. They have no idea or so they say why they have problems with their spouse. Why they have suddenly left or gone 'off' them or are arguing all the time.
When I and others try to think of reasons which we can only guess at, the OP does not come back to either admit or deny they are possible.
I dont usually copy other posters but instead bring something 'new' into it. I am also blunt and not afraid to apply blame where I think its due. I am totally against divorce unless it cant be helped and will agree to try anything to save a marriage.
Where I think a poster is not serious or has cheated I wont usually answer to help. On the other hand I dont think every problem stems from this fact.
I make my replies as short as possible and really count the words.
What I do notice is that most OP's will not come back and reply to me. They will neither agree or deny, to anything I have read 'between' the lines or to reply to my suggestions which are often different to other posters.
Am I write in saying that some people dont really want to be helped? Or to put it another way, since being helped always means some changes are needed and people are just not prepared to do that and would rather live in misery or divorce.
My original post does not seem to have been fully understood so I am now editing it.
Many posters if not most, are not here for advice of what to do but to find out what they do wrong. They have no idea or so they say why they have problems with their spouse. Why they have suddenly left or gone 'off' them or are arguing all the time.
When I and others try to think of reasons which we can only guess at, the OP does not come back to either admit or deny they are possible.
Put the internet to work for you.
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