is this nice guy behavior or was I justified?

Ok, so yea in the past I did the whole get clingy and send abusive messages thing (at least 5 years ago). I've been getting much better. I just recently had a situation though where the following happened; - Speaking to a girl for 3 years on FB. We were really good friends. - She developed feelings, I told her to back off because the distance made it impossible. - She announces that she is coming to see me (and go round the country). - We start developing feelings. I'm playing it very cool at first. We flirt on the phone, webcam and FB. - She eventually tells me she loves me and wants to spend her life with me. At this stage I tell her I feel the same way. - She comes over, and I try it on with her the first night (got signals from her during the time) - She turns me down. I'm upset and we spend a crappy second day together. She calls it "brotherly love" that night. I get pissed off and tell her that she shouldn't have told me she loved me if she didn't mean it. I said a few more things here too which were hurtful but true. I guess this is what i'm concerned about. - Creates bad atmosphere and she avoids me for 2 weeks in my own house. - My mum had paid for her to spend the weekend with us during my birthday. She comes up but doesn't acknowledge it is my birthday (oh, she offered to buy me a pint as a present. Lovely) - I kick her out over christmas. - Haven't contacted her since boxing day or her contacted me. That is precisely how it has gone down. I'm just a bit worried because I did kinda lay into her at the point when she called it brotherly love. Was it more related to the fact that my approach was crap? Is ranting like that justified given how it was before meeting?

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