Context: we're both bisexual females in our late teens. We go to different colleges but have mutual friends (one of my school friends is in her lessons). We're both going to uni in September.
So me and our mutual friend went out on a Saturday a while ago, and she was like 'hey! Do you know x? She said you were really cute and blushed and stuff, think she's interested', and I'm quite a forward person so I asked for her number, sent her a text and it went from there. We spoke ALOT in the space of three weeks, like easily 10 long paragraphs a day, so I eventually asked if she wanted to hang out round my house.
On the day, she blew me off saying she was really busy with work and college and she doesn't have time. I told our mutual friend who said that was bull****, she has mostly completed her BTEC and could've met me. At this point I thought yeah okay that's fine, she's not interested and that's cool so I stopped replying as much. The next day she sent a text saying 'I'm so sorry about my late replies I just haven't had time, I'd hate for you to think I'm ignoring you :('.
At this point I was abit like okay, it is the end of the academic year so she genuinely could be busy and our mutual friend might not have known about some extra work or what ever, so I started replying again and things went back to normal-ish. I then asked if she wanted to go out the following Saturday with me and our mutual friend to take the pressure off, she declined again saying she had work the next day (she had a 4 hour shift, I had a 10 hour shift, so I was kinda like okay, I'm definitely the one putting more commitment and effort in and I'm not going to do that anymore), but my last text was friendly enough and she was like 'enjoy your night!'.
During Saturday night, I started getting with a guy and our mutual friend pulled me aside and basically said I was being a bitch. I asked why, and she was like well you don't text someone that much and then do this, while you're not exclusive it's implied you've stopped talking/seeing other people. We got into a huge argument (oh sorry I didn't know that talking loads meant we're seeing each other? Especially since she's the one blowing me off :S) and I left the club. On the way home (again remember I'm quite a forward person hehe), I sent her a text basically saying you're giving me mixed signals and I don't know if you're interested or not. If you are but simply busy, that's cool I'll wait, but if you aren't interested just let me know I'm a big girl who can handle rejection.
She sent back something along the lines of 'I simply don't have time to see anyone right now', but the text message felt very friendly and not flirty like it used too. So I thought that's great, I'm fine with being friends with her and I know were I stand, so we can all move on.
But nope! She's still sending excessively flirty text messages, I told her about the guy I got with and she didn't out right say but I could tell she was uncomfortable I got with someone else, and now I feel like we're playing mind games on each other. The longer I take to text back, she equals it and then adds an hour on the minute (maybe I'm being paranoid?). Like if she texts me at 8 am and I text back at 12 pm, she won't text back till 5 pm.
So yeah, if you were in my position, what would you think? I personally think she's not interested and just likes the attention, which is fine and we all do it, but I don't want to engage in that sort of manipulative behaviour. However on the other hand, she mentions occassionaly how she feels like we're really similar (we are really similar, I don't really do relationships and I think she's the second person I could see me dating so quite a big deal :$) and really flirty and then got uncomfortable at me getting with other girls/boys, and if she just out right asked me to wait until after the exams were over I think I probably would maybe? Is she interested or just playing games?
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