For some background, I'm 46 and currently separated for over two years with no hope of reconciliation. My ex and I work hard to keep a good life for our two sons ten and twelve. We have 50/50 custody and are amicable.
My girlfriend of over a year is divorced for five years. She had a very abusive marriage and it still rears its ugly head quite often.
She has a ten year old son and a five year old daughter whom I love like my own.
My younger son and her son play rep hockey together which is how we met.
We have had a great relationship up to this point. Never had a fight and are very compatible and comfortable.
Because I have my boys every other week I spend it at my house and we are together the off weeks. I'm her first real relationship since her divorce and the first guy to be allowed around her children.
Her issues stem from our two sons who play hockey and go to school together. They are more like brothers in that that they are best friends one minute and fighting the next.
My ex has moved her man into my house and oddly enough his son is on the kids hockey team as well. That was what caused our split but that's another story.....
My girlfriend has real issues with having to deal with the drama from him and his ex-wife and having to have to be in constant contact with them around hockey.
She became rather distant a week ago and then announced that she thinks we need a break because she is having a really hard time with it lately.
I really don't want to end what has become a great relationship with a woman whom I really love and her kids whom I love as well.
My question to you folks is do I respect her wish and see what happens or do I work towards getting the issues resolved and stay in her life.
I think we have something great and so does she but its the outside pressures that will do us in.......
My girlfriend of over a year is divorced for five years. She had a very abusive marriage and it still rears its ugly head quite often.
She has a ten year old son and a five year old daughter whom I love like my own.
My younger son and her son play rep hockey together which is how we met.
We have had a great relationship up to this point. Never had a fight and are very compatible and comfortable.
Because I have my boys every other week I spend it at my house and we are together the off weeks. I'm her first real relationship since her divorce and the first guy to be allowed around her children.
Her issues stem from our two sons who play hockey and go to school together. They are more like brothers in that that they are best friends one minute and fighting the next.
My ex has moved her man into my house and oddly enough his son is on the kids hockey team as well. That was what caused our split but that's another story.....
My girlfriend has real issues with having to deal with the drama from him and his ex-wife and having to have to be in constant contact with them around hockey.
She became rather distant a week ago and then announced that she thinks we need a break because she is having a really hard time with it lately.
I really don't want to end what has become a great relationship with a woman whom I really love and her kids whom I love as well.
My question to you folks is do I respect her wish and see what happens or do I work towards getting the issues resolved and stay in her life.
I think we have something great and so does she but its the outside pressures that will do us in.......
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