I am going to study medicine soon at a London university. I am having trouble to get to grips with many things surrounding my twin sister. First of all let me give you background information:
My sister is younger than me, she has always had hospital visits, she is the ill one, the less pretty one and the less intelligent one. She also finds it hard to socialise and make friends. No one says this to her but it is clear.
Now I have always tutored her in every thing all her life. Starting from a young age when we were babies my mum says I was always spoke for her and did stuff for her. In high school I tutored her in 100% of her GCSEs - I know she would have got C/Bs without me but with me she got all As- Im saying this because the subjects we didn't do the same, I didn't help her so she struggled a lot. Now I am super confident and mature and will probably sail through med school in London. I tutored her in her AS levels as well, I mean I made all her notes and did everything- she just learnt them. She still managed to get poor grades for someone who wanted to do medicine all her life. She got BCCD (C in chemistry and D in biology).
Now in A2 I feel like I cant help her as much so she will fail her resits and up with rubbish A level grades. She is applying for optometry which is fine but the whole family always says "oh you will both be doctors" and it hurts- (Im indian so you get the culture lol). It hurts her I can tell, she never feels as good as me. Now we are gonna end up going to different universities, and she will not make any friends I know it, she hates socialising. She is so nice and deserves better and I feel like she will fail optometry degree or not get the A level grades in the first place. Being in a uni different from hers and doing medicine means I am totally isolated from her- I don't mind that. What I do mind is she will fail and I know she will struggle and she never had a passion for nay degree or subject I think she just copied me all her life. Now she is lost, trying to get As and doing a challenging degree.. Im so worried for her I want to cry I pray everything works out but I am so stressed. I cry for her and feel her pain. We are like the same person. It hurts seeing her fail or feel less or realise she isn't good enough to be a "future doc like me". I feel depressed and pray to Allah swt it works out and cry and now I don't know what to do, I think she is going to fail and my mum would not shout she is nice but how would my twin sis feel? I cant cope I don't know what to do.
btw she is mentally weaker than me, academically behind and cant revise on her own or finish her work without my help.. it is affecting my grades but I cant stop helping her.. or else she will not have a good career etc. I stay up all night helping her with maths a level etc... I am so scared for her future. Maybe someone with a twin understands?
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