Household chores and responsibilities

I don't know if the work load is shared equally between my husband and I. We have twin boys. We have been married since 2008. He has worked the same job and the same amount of hours since before we were married. When we were married I held a full-time job. After we were married I gave birth to identical twin boys, and spent pretty much the first two to three years solely on raising them. There were several years after their birth in which I felt a good deal of anger and frustration. I felt that his life went on pretty much as it always had, just with less staying up late and less extreme socializing. But my life was completely turned around. I've worked through most of my anger and frustration, and the relationship is satisfying. We encourage personal growth in each other. BUT, I wash all the clothes. I pick his clothes up off the floor. I wash all the toilets, floors, dishes, windows. I do 99 percent of the cooking. I get up with the boys every single morning. I feed them and make sure they are bathed and dressed. I do their homework. I generally manage the day to day business of being a parent on my own. I do the taxes. I do the shopping and shopping lists. I get the boys to and from school. I also have been progressively building a business that has grown from maybe 3000 dollars of income to around 38,000 of income over the past 7 years. The hours I put into this business are probably somewhere around 10 hours per week. Sometimes much more, rarely, and sometimes much less, rarely. But 2 hours per day, 5 days per week is a good estimate of hourly work. And my hours are very flexible, and my work is very fulfilling. I answer to no one but myself. My husband works the regular work week. 8-5, five days a week. He also hunts for the deer, processes the meat and puts it up. He kills and processes our hog that we raise every year. The crappy, hard maintenance jobs that have to be done throughout t he year, or construction jobs, such as installing a wood stove, or ripping up the carpet and installing hard floors, cutting the grass and cutting the wood, he takes care of. The thing about his work is that he never seems to be stressed. His jobs are so few and far between. He has hours and hours of free time in which to pursue what he wants to pursue. Watch tv. Sleep in. I'm a bit jealous. My stuff is always there. There is always something pressing. I kind of feel like things would be fair if I didn't have the business and bring in the money that I do. If I was "just a housewife" then I would feel okey dokey with the distribution of responsibilities. But as things are, I feel like it's fair for me to take care of the bulk of the household responsibilities, due to the flexibility of my business, but that he should really be taking on more familial responsibilities than he is. I'm not horribly angry and frustrated anymore. But I wish there was a way to really w ork out the details and get things to a more agreeable spot for me. Any input?

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