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Soo...this has been bugging my mind for a while now, i thought i was being over sensitive but i think there is something odd going on with my sister in law and me.
For starters Ive been with my husband more than 5 years (dating included)...shes the loud type, often cranky who isnt afraid to speak her mind...but overall a good person who cares deeply for her family. Our relationship is the " passive aggresive love hate attitude" if i have to label it.
The thing is, she is both nice and mean to me in subtle ways. For example, ever since i started dating her brother, shes always made fun of me in front of everyone, sometimes even shushes me. Her family laughs because
" thats how she is" and ive even fought with my husband over it so that he doesnt join in the laughter because i dont like it. In front of everyone i just laugh it off because i refuse to make a scene or give her the satisfaction of seeing me affected by it.
Then i noticed she neverrr wants to take pictures with me. She takes pics with other people a lot, even her other sister in law, and her step sister she supposedly doesnt like at all! but never with me. I dont really care about it, i just find it a little off.
Shes very expressive when she cares about someone for what ive seen in social media...shell say "love you" to her friends and family, including my other sister in law...but not me. The one time she was in a pic with another dear friend of mine, i commented "love you guys" and she responded "well i dont love you lol" which made me feel as if she doesnt like me.
Sometimes she forgets to tag me in family pics...idk.
When it was our wedding, she titled her fb album under " 'brothers name' wedding" and there wasnt a single pic with me, the bride!...and she was one of my bridesmaids! (trust me, there were plenty of pics with me, but she chose not to include them). When it was her other brothers wedding, she included both the bride and grooms name and pleeenty of pics with the bride. That made me feel excluded. But i try to pay it no mind. (this, too, is weird because when we are not around my brother in law and his wife, she talks about how she doesnt like this and that about her etc)
Mind you, i have never spoken bad to her, im very careful with what i say and im often the quiet type (my resting ***** face might not help though)
Here comes the weird thing.
She does really nice things for me like she drove me around for some wedding errands when i didnt have a car, she offered herself to give me rides too! Shes not afraid to jokingly call me a ***** (i do it too, its in light humor, how friends normally do) She defends me when my husband "bullies" me...she hangs out mosly with my hubby and i as we are closest in distance and age.
SO I CANT FIGURE HER OUT.
Am i being too sensitive? Am i onto something?
I dont plan to call her out on it because i really want to avoid awkwardness.
Any ideas guys??
Soo...this has been bugging my mind for a while now, i thought i was being over sensitive but i think there is something odd going on with my sister in law and me.
For starters Ive been with my husband more than 5 years (dating included)...shes the loud type, often cranky who isnt afraid to speak her mind...but overall a good person who cares deeply for her family. Our relationship is the " passive aggresive love hate attitude" if i have to label it.
The thing is, she is both nice and mean to me in subtle ways. For example, ever since i started dating her brother, shes always made fun of me in front of everyone, sometimes even shushes me. Her family laughs because
" thats how she is" and ive even fought with my husband over it so that he doesnt join in the laughter because i dont like it. In front of everyone i just laugh it off because i refuse to make a scene or give her the satisfaction of seeing me affected by it.
Then i noticed she neverrr wants to take pictures with me. She takes pics with other people a lot, even her other sister in law, and her step sister she supposedly doesnt like at all! but never with me. I dont really care about it, i just find it a little off.
Shes very expressive when she cares about someone for what ive seen in social media...shell say "love you" to her friends and family, including my other sister in law...but not me. The one time she was in a pic with another dear friend of mine, i commented "love you guys" and she responded "well i dont love you lol" which made me feel as if she doesnt like me.
Sometimes she forgets to tag me in family pics...idk.
When it was our wedding, she titled her fb album under " 'brothers name' wedding" and there wasnt a single pic with me, the bride!...and she was one of my bridesmaids! (trust me, there were plenty of pics with me, but she chose not to include them). When it was her other brothers wedding, she included both the bride and grooms name and pleeenty of pics with the bride. That made me feel excluded. But i try to pay it no mind. (this, too, is weird because when we are not around my brother in law and his wife, she talks about how she doesnt like this and that about her etc)
Mind you, i have never spoken bad to her, im very careful with what i say and im often the quiet type (my resting ***** face might not help though)
Here comes the weird thing.
She does really nice things for me like she drove me around for some wedding errands when i didnt have a car, she offered herself to give me rides too! Shes not afraid to jokingly call me a ***** (i do it too, its in light humor, how friends normally do) She defends me when my husband "bullies" me...she hangs out mosly with my hubby and i as we are closest in distance and age.
SO I CANT FIGURE HER OUT.
Am i being too sensitive? Am i onto something?
I dont plan to call her out on it because i really want to avoid awkwardness.
Any ideas guys??
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