Hi There,
I have been divorced several years now. Met a man in March this year, he and his wife had just started divorce proceedings a few months before hand. We had an immediate attraction and started a romance. He has 3 kids and I have 3 kids. We are both mid 30s.
He had had an affair early on in his marriage and although they patched things up, the marriage never really survived the aftermath of mistrust from his wife. So I was wary about getting involved, but having dated for a few months our relationship blossomed. We have lots of things in common, incredible chemistry and of course I have been able to help him through this year having been through a divorce myself.
To sum up our relationship this year I'd say it started out very passionate (still is) and he was smitten, so was I. It continued that way but here is my glitch. We are friends on facebook and noticed he is friends with some gal who is quite flirty with him. I researched a bit and not only was it mildly flirty but it was also quite intense how they talked to each other about certain topics (not sexy topics, but it seemed they hit it off discussing unusual subjects). So he and I had a few upsets about this girl. It's a person he met on a blog/chat site last year and he says they have not actually met in person and she lives way out of state. So I felt better.
But then I noticed again here and there they'd talk and she was flirty and he could be and I had no idea if they were talking privately. Then I was sneaky and checked his facebook email and saw a few months ago they had had some sexually laced / innuendo chats and although he seemed to keep a lid on it, it was threatenting.
So after we had a discussion about us he said he'd not talk to her again but he did not delete her from Facebook. But I also noticed he never talked about me on fb publicy and then recently, after 10 months he suddenly starts publicly tagging my name and being romantic about me. I was happy. I wasn't sure why the shift to suddenly broadcasting me on facebook, but it made me feel good. But a few days later I once again saw his open fb page and I went to this girls page. Clearly the week before she'd met someone new and he seemed kind of jealous as he reached out to her and tried to get her attention with small talk, but the girl was having nothing of it and ignored him. It was at that point my boyfriend started talking about me on his facebook statuses. not sure if that was for me or to make her jealous? :(
So we had a fight and didn't talk for a week. Then we had an amazing few weeks in December and I've never felt so much love from him. He continued to mention me on facebook and wrote some incredible notes to me and spent so much time with my family and declared me his girlfriend on facebook and really went full blown public about us on his facebook on Christmas Eve telling all his FB friends that I was 'his love' and he treasured me and our future was bright. I was happy, of course, but then I noticed about 2 hours later, that same woman deleted him as a friend.
That's kind of weird. Clearly she was upset by that message and although I know my boyfriend is sincere and loves me, I know that he must have led her on a bit for her to feel upset and delete him.
He says he loves me, he is incredible with our children, we spend all our time together and it's a deeply romantic, sexually and intellecutally fulfilling amazing ride, and I feel he is my soul mate. But this one woman on facebook is scaring me, even though they have not met. She has clearly removed him as a friend (I know it was her not him as we were skiing and when we got home, she was no longer a friend, so it was her, not him).
Sorry for long story. I do not know if I'm making too much of this situation with this woman and should just forget it? Or if this is something to worry about? They are still friends on one other social media site and there seems to have been no correspondence since she cut him off.
I have been divorced several years now. Met a man in March this year, he and his wife had just started divorce proceedings a few months before hand. We had an immediate attraction and started a romance. He has 3 kids and I have 3 kids. We are both mid 30s.
He had had an affair early on in his marriage and although they patched things up, the marriage never really survived the aftermath of mistrust from his wife. So I was wary about getting involved, but having dated for a few months our relationship blossomed. We have lots of things in common, incredible chemistry and of course I have been able to help him through this year having been through a divorce myself.
To sum up our relationship this year I'd say it started out very passionate (still is) and he was smitten, so was I. It continued that way but here is my glitch. We are friends on facebook and noticed he is friends with some gal who is quite flirty with him. I researched a bit and not only was it mildly flirty but it was also quite intense how they talked to each other about certain topics (not sexy topics, but it seemed they hit it off discussing unusual subjects). So he and I had a few upsets about this girl. It's a person he met on a blog/chat site last year and he says they have not actually met in person and she lives way out of state. So I felt better.
But then I noticed again here and there they'd talk and she was flirty and he could be and I had no idea if they were talking privately. Then I was sneaky and checked his facebook email and saw a few months ago they had had some sexually laced / innuendo chats and although he seemed to keep a lid on it, it was threatenting.
So after we had a discussion about us he said he'd not talk to her again but he did not delete her from Facebook. But I also noticed he never talked about me on fb publicy and then recently, after 10 months he suddenly starts publicly tagging my name and being romantic about me. I was happy. I wasn't sure why the shift to suddenly broadcasting me on facebook, but it made me feel good. But a few days later I once again saw his open fb page and I went to this girls page. Clearly the week before she'd met someone new and he seemed kind of jealous as he reached out to her and tried to get her attention with small talk, but the girl was having nothing of it and ignored him. It was at that point my boyfriend started talking about me on his facebook statuses. not sure if that was for me or to make her jealous? :(
So we had a fight and didn't talk for a week. Then we had an amazing few weeks in December and I've never felt so much love from him. He continued to mention me on facebook and wrote some incredible notes to me and spent so much time with my family and declared me his girlfriend on facebook and really went full blown public about us on his facebook on Christmas Eve telling all his FB friends that I was 'his love' and he treasured me and our future was bright. I was happy, of course, but then I noticed about 2 hours later, that same woman deleted him as a friend.
That's kind of weird. Clearly she was upset by that message and although I know my boyfriend is sincere and loves me, I know that he must have led her on a bit for her to feel upset and delete him.
He says he loves me, he is incredible with our children, we spend all our time together and it's a deeply romantic, sexually and intellecutally fulfilling amazing ride, and I feel he is my soul mate. But this one woman on facebook is scaring me, even though they have not met. She has clearly removed him as a friend (I know it was her not him as we were skiing and when we got home, she was no longer a friend, so it was her, not him).
Sorry for long story. I do not know if I'm making too much of this situation with this woman and should just forget it? Or if this is something to worry about? They are still friends on one other social media site and there seems to have been no correspondence since she cut him off.
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