Hi, before I start I just want to clarify that this post is by no means a "feel sorry for me" or "pick me up" thread. I'm genuinely concerned and interested in to the possible reasons why to my question asked.
I've been single now for a couple of years. I've had a few failed relationships due to my insecure and paranoid behaviour. However that's kind of irrelevant and a different subject matter altogether.
Over the last couple of years I've become to get to know myself and like myself again. I'm at my most content in life and have been ready to meet somebody for a while now. The problem I have is that NO GIRLS FANCY ME. I seriously can not count the amount of rejections I've had over the past 2 years. I've been shot down by all walks of life. Some expected and some certainly not.
Personally I don't think I am bad looking at all. I believe I've got a degree of intellect and a vibrant and warm personality. I've been told I'm witty and fun to be around yet I can't seem to attract a girl? Most of my friends are female and have even said they are mystified at how bad my dating success has been. Then again they are obligated to be polite.
I walk down the street and can't help feel envious when I see pairs. Some that you wouldn't even put together but I am learning it's not all about looks. If it was then I'd be even more screwed.
I have hobbies. I go to the gym. I go to see live music. I play gold and I work. In all these environments you would think with the amount of females I come in to contact with that ONE would be available and interested. You'd be wrong. I've not had one ounce of interest in 2 years. I've been on various dating sites where I can log on after a week and find no messages no replies to my messages and a bunch of viewed me.
I'm genuinely stumped. Am I being deluded when I say I genuinely do not see why I am having such a bad run? I've thought of everything. I've even questioned if it's just others with issues and not me, but returned to believe that thinking is not helpful in any way.
My self esteem and confidence is diminishing by the day and really worry that I won't have the skills to even look at a woman soon.
I noticed even when I walk down the street no girl looks twice. At a bar no girl looks for longer than a glance before she's decided I'm not for her. I don't want to change my appearance to suit somebody else. I'd like for them to get to know the person I am and what I can offer actually is more than the average Joe and idiotic players out there.
I suppose you can only judge me on my looks on here as anybody can claim how nice they are without evidence but perhaps I'm wanting a female perspective on how attractions work and a males take on it too. Maybe you're going through similar or have done and can shed some light?
Please be nice with your responses. I've not wrote this to be complimented or insured.
Thank you for reading.
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