Hi everyone,
I moved out almost exactly a year ago, and the divorce was final on Jan 31st of this year. Nevada has a formula for CS, with something called a presumptive maximum per income band, which is basically a cap. It's also calculated as a difference between the incomes, and as the ex didn't work, I pay 100%. This comes out to right around $1,600/month for my 2 teenage kids. This is in addition to spousal support that she also receives. No car payment, just the rent/utilities/etc.
Anyway, one of my girls is always asking for me to buy things - regular day to day stuff, like a lunch after school, a new binder for school or most recently a haircut. I explain to her that I'm already sending money to her mother for just those kinds of things. I don't know if her mom is putting her up to it, but my daughter says that her mom doesn't have any money to pay for these things. And that's the kicker. It's been a year, and the ex still won't get a job. It's getting really frustrating. Part of me wants to ask them why their mom gets this free pass on providing absolutely nothing in financial support - these are high school kids, mind you, not little kids that you'd need to stay home to take care of. So, how have any of you out there in similar situations handled this? At first, I would say OK and do it, but for the last several months I've just been telling her no. The ex is pretty much impossible to talk to - hyper emotional, very narcissistic, won't take responsibility for anything, etc.
Thanks
I moved out almost exactly a year ago, and the divorce was final on Jan 31st of this year. Nevada has a formula for CS, with something called a presumptive maximum per income band, which is basically a cap. It's also calculated as a difference between the incomes, and as the ex didn't work, I pay 100%. This comes out to right around $1,600/month for my 2 teenage kids. This is in addition to spousal support that she also receives. No car payment, just the rent/utilities/etc.
Anyway, one of my girls is always asking for me to buy things - regular day to day stuff, like a lunch after school, a new binder for school or most recently a haircut. I explain to her that I'm already sending money to her mother for just those kinds of things. I don't know if her mom is putting her up to it, but my daughter says that her mom doesn't have any money to pay for these things. And that's the kicker. It's been a year, and the ex still won't get a job. It's getting really frustrating. Part of me wants to ask them why their mom gets this free pass on providing absolutely nothing in financial support - these are high school kids, mind you, not little kids that you'd need to stay home to take care of. So, how have any of you out there in similar situations handled this? At first, I would say OK and do it, but for the last several months I've just been telling her no. The ex is pretty much impossible to talk to - hyper emotional, very narcissistic, won't take responsibility for anything, etc.
Thanks
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