Yes things have gotten really busy but not sure why it's a constant fight, one after another about EVERYTHING.
Stuff that are bigger issues come up and then I feel like I'm at a road block again with husband and don't know what to do. For example, my mom helps us out with babysitting a lot with our two little ones. I suggested to husband we invite her over for dinner Monday night, this is not what we do normally but I felt like it would be nice, the kids would be happy, in the past in an argument my mom mentioned she was upset we never invite her over for anything. His answer is "Ok, we'll have to get more food".
Knowing that I am very sensitive to their relationship and how he treats my mom, I wish he was more appreciative and a bit more respectful/nice/kind to her. How about instead say "that's a good idea, she has been a big help with all the babysitting"...
My mom and I have a complicated relationship but we're good. Husband doesn't "not get along" with her but it's more "Sure I like your mom and respect her" but I can see from the way he acts with her it's more like just tolerating her. He shuts down, acts annoyed with small things etc. It's so hard for me to let go.
The small bickering fights that have been going on for the past MONTH have been annoying but I can move on from them. Stuff like this is something I always can't move on from and am still trying to accept that it will just be this way. I'll never have the relationship I want with all of us (husband and mom). :(
I feel like my mom used to try a LOT more in the past with my husband but since my mom and I had a huge argument around the holidays, she is just cordial with him. Since that argument I feel like husband is even more distant from her...like we'll go to pick up kids and I'll sit for a bit and talk to mom and kids. Husband is just standing, waiting to gather kids things so we can leave.
It just makes me sad.
What to do?
Stuff that are bigger issues come up and then I feel like I'm at a road block again with husband and don't know what to do. For example, my mom helps us out with babysitting a lot with our two little ones. I suggested to husband we invite her over for dinner Monday night, this is not what we do normally but I felt like it would be nice, the kids would be happy, in the past in an argument my mom mentioned she was upset we never invite her over for anything. His answer is "Ok, we'll have to get more food".
Knowing that I am very sensitive to their relationship and how he treats my mom, I wish he was more appreciative and a bit more respectful/nice/kind to her. How about instead say "that's a good idea, she has been a big help with all the babysitting"...
My mom and I have a complicated relationship but we're good. Husband doesn't "not get along" with her but it's more "Sure I like your mom and respect her" but I can see from the way he acts with her it's more like just tolerating her. He shuts down, acts annoyed with small things etc. It's so hard for me to let go.
The small bickering fights that have been going on for the past MONTH have been annoying but I can move on from them. Stuff like this is something I always can't move on from and am still trying to accept that it will just be this way. I'll never have the relationship I want with all of us (husband and mom). :(
I feel like my mom used to try a LOT more in the past with my husband but since my mom and I had a huge argument around the holidays, she is just cordial with him. Since that argument I feel like husband is even more distant from her...like we'll go to pick up kids and I'll sit for a bit and talk to mom and kids. Husband is just standing, waiting to gather kids things so we can leave.
It just makes me sad.
What to do?
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