I sort of want to explain my situation guys. I'm a 19 year old guy who likes a girl, and I don't know
a. whether she likes me and
b. what to do next
Background
So I joined sixth form aged 18 after spending a lot of time twiddling my thumbs in my bedroom doing nothing but eating Doritos and ballooning to 130kg. In hindsight I feel I had genuine depression.
I saw this girl on the first day and I instantly had this crazy crush. I thought to myself how am I ever going to get a girl like that. I decided to just focus on myself to give me the best shot at ever liking and finding a girl.
I found out she had a boyfriend. I became friends with the girl, went to her party and I guess seeing her with her boyfriend I slowly accepted it was never going to happen.
We drifted apart I deleted her number I saw her around in some classes but I just became an acquaintance because I didn't want to like a girl with s boyfriend.
Fast forward a year, I lost 40+ kg, I just became much more confident. I focused on myself and I got myself good grades and good university offers. Life is much better.
and today
I don't know how or why but gradually me and the girl started talking more. Her relationship with her boyfriend had been breaking down for months. Eventually after 2 years it collapsed. She told me she really valued my friendship. She also told me (as did her friends) that I am tailor made to her specific type.
she began messaging me a lot. One day I just said to her straight don't message me anymore. I didn't want to be friends. I told her how I felt. That I didn't want to be friends. I really like her. At first she said she really likes me but not in a romantic way. Slowly I feel like that is changing.
I asked her what she thought and she said we should take it slow. Give it a few months. I thought ok, fair enough, I don't want to be rebound,but I also thought she is avoiding the question. Sort of avoided her for a while.
I found out she has a profile on a dating website. (she doesn't sleep around if it matters) I made an account on the site and messaged her which she said she thought was really sweet (since I made the account to message her)
here is the crunch
I asked her if she is stringing me along for attention, and she said she swears she isnt
I asked her if this (me talking to her) would lead to anything and she said she didn't know/was unsure.
She then told me that it isn't easy to get into a proper relationship. She said we should go for coffee next week and have a real talk about the situation.
her friends told me they think she's unsure/undecided about me if anyone here understands that because I don't.
__________
I'm sorry for this thesis. Situation playing on my mind, really would appreciate some input.
Do you guys think she likes me ? Plenty more fish and all that but I really do like this girl.
I know she thinks I'm attractive, a good guy, intelligent, funny, charismatic. I know it sounds really like I'm blowing my own trumpet, and I really would never wish to post anonymously bragging about myself on thestudentroom at midnight. This is me quoting her. But I don't know if her thinking these things about me is the same as her liking me if that makes sense ?
And what do you think I should do/say when we get coffee ?
a. whether she likes me and
b. what to do next
Background
So I joined sixth form aged 18 after spending a lot of time twiddling my thumbs in my bedroom doing nothing but eating Doritos and ballooning to 130kg. In hindsight I feel I had genuine depression.
I saw this girl on the first day and I instantly had this crazy crush. I thought to myself how am I ever going to get a girl like that. I decided to just focus on myself to give me the best shot at ever liking and finding a girl.
I found out she had a boyfriend. I became friends with the girl, went to her party and I guess seeing her with her boyfriend I slowly accepted it was never going to happen.
We drifted apart I deleted her number I saw her around in some classes but I just became an acquaintance because I didn't want to like a girl with s boyfriend.
Fast forward a year, I lost 40+ kg, I just became much more confident. I focused on myself and I got myself good grades and good university offers. Life is much better.
and today
I don't know how or why but gradually me and the girl started talking more. Her relationship with her boyfriend had been breaking down for months. Eventually after 2 years it collapsed. She told me she really valued my friendship. She also told me (as did her friends) that I am tailor made to her specific type.
she began messaging me a lot. One day I just said to her straight don't message me anymore. I didn't want to be friends. I told her how I felt. That I didn't want to be friends. I really like her. At first she said she really likes me but not in a romantic way. Slowly I feel like that is changing.
I asked her what she thought and she said we should take it slow. Give it a few months. I thought ok, fair enough, I don't want to be rebound,but I also thought she is avoiding the question. Sort of avoided her for a while.
I found out she has a profile on a dating website. (she doesn't sleep around if it matters) I made an account on the site and messaged her which she said she thought was really sweet (since I made the account to message her)
here is the crunch
I asked her if she is stringing me along for attention, and she said she swears she isnt
I asked her if this (me talking to her) would lead to anything and she said she didn't know/was unsure.
She then told me that it isn't easy to get into a proper relationship. She said we should go for coffee next week and have a real talk about the situation.
her friends told me they think she's unsure/undecided about me if anyone here understands that because I don't.
__________
I'm sorry for this thesis. Situation playing on my mind, really would appreciate some input.
Do you guys think she likes me ? Plenty more fish and all that but I really do like this girl.
I know she thinks I'm attractive, a good guy, intelligent, funny, charismatic. I know it sounds really like I'm blowing my own trumpet, and I really would never wish to post anonymously bragging about myself on thestudentroom at midnight. This is me quoting her. But I don't know if her thinking these things about me is the same as her liking me if that makes sense ?
And what do you think I should do/say when we get coffee ?
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