So last term I told my housemate and friend about my feelings for her. After she found out about my feelings for her said that I was cute and she liked me a lot, well she wrote that to me in a card or something. I didn't get the card then she said the same thing to me in a WhatsApp message but added that she was not sure of her feelings for me. So before this term started we went out for coffee. She seemed to enjoy going out with me and I asked her if she was interested in going on a second date. I asked her in person and she said yes while smiling.
We, however, were awkward around each other for the whole time we "dated" each other and it didn't even seem like we were friends sometimes. I told her how I hate how awkward it was between us in a Facebook message because I told her I wanted to talk to several times that day and she kinda avoided me, or we didn't have any opportunities to talk alone. The following morning she sent me message back saying that she wants us to go back to being friends because she does miss how things used to be before she "****ed" everything up. She also said that I deserve someone better, that I'm one of her best friends so she doesn't want me to get hurt especially by her.
I talked to her in person about her message straight after seeing the message and said she's not interested anymore. She doesn't feel same way about me as I feel about her, and doesn't want to lead me on. She even used the line "it's not you it's me" and said she actually meant it in this case even though it's a bull**** phrase most of the time. Then she again said I'm too good for her or something, and I'm awesome and amazing, then implied that she's not a good person,which confused the hell outta me, plus she said doesn't have time to date people because she has a lot going on, or something to that effect.
I asked her if we took things uber slow would she reconsider dating me and she said no. I then I asked her when she knew she didn't want to continue dating me and she said she didn't know, which was a dodgy response imo. She also got a bit teary when I asked her one of the questions, I forgot which one.
The thing is she rarely gives me eye contact during group conversations when she's speaking and I don't understand why. She looks at everyone and I give her contact, but she rarely looks at me. When she does look at me she doesn't really look scared so I don't think I make her nervous, but I don't know what else it could be. When we're talking alone she does make eye contact, and I'm, like, the only in the house she talks to about her emotions. I think she only told me that she had social anxiety, even though several of us in the house have it too. I was also the first one in the house she came out to even though I knew she liked girls before and she says she enjoys talking to me, but in group conversations we never talk and she seems to not acknowledge my existence.
I'm am sad about the fact that we're not continuing to date each other, but I think I'll get over it relatively easy and I'm not harboring any bad thoughts towards her because she's hard to get and stay mad at and I respect her decision, but I'm just confused about her reasons for not continuing dating me, well I'm unsure about the validity of them or something and I'm definitely confused about why she'll hardly look at me in group conversations when she'll give everyone else plenty of eye contact. It doesn't make sense for someone to do to that to a person they call their best friend.
Should I talk to her again about things, or just the fact that she not giving me eye contact confuses me?
We, however, were awkward around each other for the whole time we "dated" each other and it didn't even seem like we were friends sometimes. I told her how I hate how awkward it was between us in a Facebook message because I told her I wanted to talk to several times that day and she kinda avoided me, or we didn't have any opportunities to talk alone. The following morning she sent me message back saying that she wants us to go back to being friends because she does miss how things used to be before she "****ed" everything up. She also said that I deserve someone better, that I'm one of her best friends so she doesn't want me to get hurt especially by her.
I talked to her in person about her message straight after seeing the message and said she's not interested anymore. She doesn't feel same way about me as I feel about her, and doesn't want to lead me on. She even used the line "it's not you it's me" and said she actually meant it in this case even though it's a bull**** phrase most of the time. Then she again said I'm too good for her or something, and I'm awesome and amazing, then implied that she's not a good person,which confused the hell outta me, plus she said doesn't have time to date people because she has a lot going on, or something to that effect.
I asked her if we took things uber slow would she reconsider dating me and she said no. I then I asked her when she knew she didn't want to continue dating me and she said she didn't know, which was a dodgy response imo. She also got a bit teary when I asked her one of the questions, I forgot which one.
The thing is she rarely gives me eye contact during group conversations when she's speaking and I don't understand why. She looks at everyone and I give her contact, but she rarely looks at me. When she does look at me she doesn't really look scared so I don't think I make her nervous, but I don't know what else it could be. When we're talking alone she does make eye contact, and I'm, like, the only in the house she talks to about her emotions. I think she only told me that she had social anxiety, even though several of us in the house have it too. I was also the first one in the house she came out to even though I knew she liked girls before and she says she enjoys talking to me, but in group conversations we never talk and she seems to not acknowledge my existence.
I'm am sad about the fact that we're not continuing to date each other, but I think I'll get over it relatively easy and I'm not harboring any bad thoughts towards her because she's hard to get and stay mad at and I respect her decision, but I'm just confused about her reasons for not continuing dating me, well I'm unsure about the validity of them or something and I'm definitely confused about why she'll hardly look at me in group conversations when she'll give everyone else plenty of eye contact. It doesn't make sense for someone to do to that to a person they call their best friend.
Should I talk to her again about things, or just the fact that she not giving me eye contact confuses me?
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