Hi everyone.
I'm 6 months into uni now, and I've met some really fun people. One of those is a female flatmate of mine. We talk nearly every day, go out in the evenings (with and without other friends) maybe once or twice a month, and I'm closer to her than any of my other flatmates.
While she's a complete barrel of laughs, I recognize that she wouldn't make suitable girlfriend material for the below reasons.
- She's rather promiscuous. Purely subjective viewpoint here, but it makes me question whether she'd actually be serious about anything more than FWB.
- Smokes like a chimney. Again, purely subjective, but I find it unnattractive.
- Doesn't take her studies all that seriously, again subjective blahdy blah.
- Once drunkenly slapped me on a night out when I was taking her home (not in that way) because she was really quite drunk. I get that it's a one off, and that it was drunken, but to me, it indicates a lack of respect.
She is also seeing someone at the moment, so this definitely isn't going to work.
Consequently, there should be no reason for me to be attracted to her, and yet I somehow am. It's not the typical guy puts girl on pedestal scenario, because I recognize that she's flawed. I've like lots of girls before, and I'd say this crush is a mere 5/10 compared to the strongest crush I've had, but two months on, and this still hasn't gone away.
Why is this happening, and can I do (or perhaps, what should I do?)
I'm 6 months into uni now, and I've met some really fun people. One of those is a female flatmate of mine. We talk nearly every day, go out in the evenings (with and without other friends) maybe once or twice a month, and I'm closer to her than any of my other flatmates.
While she's a complete barrel of laughs, I recognize that she wouldn't make suitable girlfriend material for the below reasons.
- She's rather promiscuous. Purely subjective viewpoint here, but it makes me question whether she'd actually be serious about anything more than FWB.
- Smokes like a chimney. Again, purely subjective, but I find it unnattractive.
- Doesn't take her studies all that seriously, again subjective blahdy blah.
- Once drunkenly slapped me on a night out when I was taking her home (not in that way) because she was really quite drunk. I get that it's a one off, and that it was drunken, but to me, it indicates a lack of respect.
She is also seeing someone at the moment, so this definitely isn't going to work.
Consequently, there should be no reason for me to be attracted to her, and yet I somehow am. It's not the typical guy puts girl on pedestal scenario, because I recognize that she's flawed. I've like lots of girls before, and I'd say this crush is a mere 5/10 compared to the strongest crush I've had, but two months on, and this still hasn't gone away.
Why is this happening, and can I do (or perhaps, what should I do?)
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