I was debating whether I should even bother to write a post about it, or just let it go, and keep my emotions on an even keel.
But here it goes...
Met a guy via online dating. He was nothing like what his profile described, and I'm not talking about looks, or the extra 2" they add in height, while their potbellies become "average" body shape. His interests, his likes...nothing really matched. Every third word was a lie. It took me months to put together the full picture. Worst of all, he's gay (to be PC, nothing wrong with that per se, but please, be upfront, don't mislead). Why in the friggin' name of G*d would you look for a relationship with a woman, when all you want is a man? That's just a recipe for disaster. Turns out, he also dates two handfuls of women, apparently all platonic (my BS meter went off the chart on that), which is fine by me. I was/am seeing others as well. But he does not want a relationship with anyone. Fine, too, to each their own. But why are you looking for one in your profile, and then blame it on others when they take you up on it, and tell them they have misconceptions on what dating sites are all about, and not everyone there is looking for a relationship. Well, then SAY SO! Interests? I met his description almost to a T, but his list was yet another misrepresentation. Didn't live up to that expectation, either.
Now, if he had posted in his profile that he seeks friendship only, great. But he kept building up hopes, only to dash them. When I called him on it, he labeled me as rushing things, insecure, wanting to take it slow, etc. blabla.....
I just don't get why people misrepresent themselves. Don't they think it would create an issue down the line? Boy, did I learn my lesson. :scratchhead:
Anyone else have any funky stories to share for all of us to learn from?
But here it goes...
Met a guy via online dating. He was nothing like what his profile described, and I'm not talking about looks, or the extra 2" they add in height, while their potbellies become "average" body shape. His interests, his likes...nothing really matched. Every third word was a lie. It took me months to put together the full picture. Worst of all, he's gay (to be PC, nothing wrong with that per se, but please, be upfront, don't mislead). Why in the friggin' name of G*d would you look for a relationship with a woman, when all you want is a man? That's just a recipe for disaster. Turns out, he also dates two handfuls of women, apparently all platonic (my BS meter went off the chart on that), which is fine by me. I was/am seeing others as well. But he does not want a relationship with anyone. Fine, too, to each their own. But why are you looking for one in your profile, and then blame it on others when they take you up on it, and tell them they have misconceptions on what dating sites are all about, and not everyone there is looking for a relationship. Well, then SAY SO! Interests? I met his description almost to a T, but his list was yet another misrepresentation. Didn't live up to that expectation, either.
Now, if he had posted in his profile that he seeks friendship only, great. But he kept building up hopes, only to dash them. When I called him on it, he labeled me as rushing things, insecure, wanting to take it slow, etc. blabla.....
I just don't get why people misrepresent themselves. Don't they think it would create an issue down the line? Boy, did I learn my lesson. :scratchhead:
Anyone else have any funky stories to share for all of us to learn from?
Put the internet to work for you.
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