Hi and please bear with my long story.
My husband and I have been married for 5.5 years, together for 7.5. Over the years, my parents have either asked me if he's gay or flat out told me they think he's gay. They worry about me because they think he married me to appease his parents and is suppressing his true sexual identity, and they are scared that one day he comes out and leaves me. I admit to having wondered if he's gay or not. Here's why...
I have caught him on gay websites (not gay porn, but a forum website for gay men to meet and chat, etc)
I have discovered a chat log between him and another man (9 different chats total) where they discussed meeting up and hooking up. My husband expressed a desire to perform oral sex on the man and to have sex with him while the man had sex with a woman.
My husband has not had an orgasm/ejaculated during sex with me in a little over 5 years. I'm dead serious. I think it's because he knows he's not having sex with men so I'm not good enough for him.
In order for us to have sex, I must initiate, EVERY SINGLE TIME, or we don't have sex. He NEVER initiates. Claims fear of rejection.
Upon confrontation about website, he said before he met me he had joined the website because he was questioning his sexuality because he had never dated anyone before so he found himself wondering. Okay- fair enough.
Upon confrontation of the chat logs with that other man, he said he was bored at work, logged into a chatroom, started chatting with women but couldn't find anyone to talk to about sex and then this man started chatting him up. He said the stimulation was from the talk of sex itself and not because he was talking to a guy. I asked repeatedly if he was turned on by the idea of hooking up with a guy and he said no, even said he thought that would be gross.
I am bisexual so the question I have is impossible for me to answer....Do straight people ever fantasize about having a same-sex encounter? Being attracted to women, I can't answer that. It's totally normal for me to be attracted to men and women so I can't know what a straight person thinks.
Men: Have you ever had homosexual fantasies despite being straight and never actually wanting to make those fantasies a reality? I need to know!
And please, I would really appreciate not getting an influx of comments saying he's definitely gay- you don't know him only my brief explanation so how can you really say? All I want to know is if straight people can have same-sex fantasies...
Thank you.
My husband and I have been married for 5.5 years, together for 7.5. Over the years, my parents have either asked me if he's gay or flat out told me they think he's gay. They worry about me because they think he married me to appease his parents and is suppressing his true sexual identity, and they are scared that one day he comes out and leaves me. I admit to having wondered if he's gay or not. Here's why...
I have caught him on gay websites (not gay porn, but a forum website for gay men to meet and chat, etc)
I have discovered a chat log between him and another man (9 different chats total) where they discussed meeting up and hooking up. My husband expressed a desire to perform oral sex on the man and to have sex with him while the man had sex with a woman.
My husband has not had an orgasm/ejaculated during sex with me in a little over 5 years. I'm dead serious. I think it's because he knows he's not having sex with men so I'm not good enough for him.
In order for us to have sex, I must initiate, EVERY SINGLE TIME, or we don't have sex. He NEVER initiates. Claims fear of rejection.
Upon confrontation about website, he said before he met me he had joined the website because he was questioning his sexuality because he had never dated anyone before so he found himself wondering. Okay- fair enough.
Upon confrontation of the chat logs with that other man, he said he was bored at work, logged into a chatroom, started chatting with women but couldn't find anyone to talk to about sex and then this man started chatting him up. He said the stimulation was from the talk of sex itself and not because he was talking to a guy. I asked repeatedly if he was turned on by the idea of hooking up with a guy and he said no, even said he thought that would be gross.
I am bisexual so the question I have is impossible for me to answer....Do straight people ever fantasize about having a same-sex encounter? Being attracted to women, I can't answer that. It's totally normal for me to be attracted to men and women so I can't know what a straight person thinks.
Men: Have you ever had homosexual fantasies despite being straight and never actually wanting to make those fantasies a reality? I need to know!
And please, I would really appreciate not getting an influx of comments saying he's definitely gay- you don't know him only my brief explanation so how can you really say? All I want to know is if straight people can have same-sex fantasies...
Thank you.
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