| I have been with my wife for 14 years we have 2 daughters 3 and 7. She started having an affair with a coworker in December. He is also married with 2 kids. They had been spending a lot of time together at lunch since September. As soon as the affair began neither one of them did very much to hide it. My wife told me in January that she felt we were through and waited until February to tell me there was someone else and that they loved each other. We rent our home from her parents. She has not asked me to leave and lately she has started saying that she can't leave me because I would not be able to take care of the kids on my own (both economically and practically - kids are a lot of work and my wife and have worked as a good team raising them). This makes her cry and I think this is the only time she feels guilty for what she is doing. I feel like the situation is 99% hopeless for us but I am wondering if I can do anything in whatever amount of t ime we will have to live together while we figure out how the separation will work. I have been working half of my work week from home and have been a very hands on dad to our kids. One more thing is that she has told her mother that we are through but not about the affair. Her mother is devastated at what the separation will do to her granddaughters. I love my wife and though she says she does not have those feelings for me anymore, I know if there wasn't someone else she would be still with me. Any advice on how to handle myself is appreciated. Thank you. |
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