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Difficult situation and need advice please? What do think of him? Where do I stand?

I had a ONS with my ex's friend in mid December. We had never met before this night, but briefly knew of each other. This guy has slept with quite a lot of girls. I found out I was pregnant in January,
We rarely have gone a day without texting since, he's very supportive. It's a stressful situation and we do fall out occasionally, he's told me he likes me, he hates me, he's offended me, I've offended him... I've told him many times that I like him. He's said it back one night and then claimed to be drunk. This is a text off him during an argument when I told him to stop texting me


"You have got a right fcking cheek saying that, all I bloody wanted to do was not talk to you and you fcuking pester. Your deluded moron"


but recently he's been more open and confessed to it being mutual, but I have doubts.


I took an abortion pill which didn't work and now I have to get a suction abortion which is thisThurs...
I've told no one but him and I'm not showing, thank god.


We text everyday and our conversation varies, but we have only actually seen each other once. I've been away at uni, now I'm back home again but we both live with parents...i don't really want to meet him in public place but houses are obviously out of limits. Anyway he's in my uni town on the 23rd and he's going to come over and see me. He wants to come to the abortion on Thursday but I'm not sure, it'll be just added pressure on me as I want to make a good impression.


I told him this guy on the train asked for my number and he wanted to go on a date and that my mum wanted me to go and he replied "Quite embarrassing your mum trying to make you go on dates, but obv from what you said you aren't listening to that" and then he kept on texting through the day asking what I was up to. He texted me on the night saying what are the plans for the 23rd?
I copied what he previously said " I'll see you then and many times after " he replied "what's your thoughts though" me "I don't know, what ever you want to do or just come to mine" he replied saying "jimmy" (it's what I called his penis as a joke during our drunken ONS) I replied "I'm not just a shag" he said "but do you want to play with him" me " :( " then he said "why the sad face? I already shagged you anyway so that doesn't bother me the not a shag as far as I'm concerned that's you changing your ways" i was a bit confused by that, then he went onto saying imagine if my friend who I was out with that night came back to the after party the night of our ONS, and that i might not have been pregnant as he might of got with her instead.
Then he was going to have an early night so no texting. I asked why and he told me its a secret. I then looked on his twitter which is open to public (I don't have twitter and he doesn't know i look) he was in London at a banking interview for a really good bank. He finished uni in Sep doing accounting, he'd then been working at his dads small accounting company. I didn't say anything and asked where he was, he said he was in bed and going to sleep, I replied saying "suspicious" He said "Be suspicious as its to do with you" I replied "no it isn't! Confused" He then said " its a secret, It involves you in someway" how can moving to the other side of the UK to the capital, getting his own place an becoming a banker possibly involve me. Imagine if he wanted me to move with him, but if It did involve me it'll probably be the fact that he could get his own place and I could come for naughty weekends away and stay with him.


These are some of the texts he's sent over the past 2 months.


"Like I said I'm happy to meet you after, doesn't matter about the shagging. At the end of day when pregnancy is over we might see each other in a different light in terms of always had this situation hanging over us ey"


"You know I want to see you after we had plans and I do like you. When it comes to pregnancy I just think let me be there, it will be healthy for the future if you do. I don't want to walk away one bit, but putting that chapter completely behind us starting fresh is the best way. So the pregnancy page is completely turned. Thoughts? You know if u don't let me come it will just cause problems unnecessarily between us x "


"I do want to though. I really want to be at the appointment please. As I won't have peace of mind that the oregnancy is over unless I'm there. How do I know that you will go through with it and not come back to me months later and be like I never did it. You have to let me be there please? Ill do whatever you want from there. And I do want to meet u after as I think as u said before I do like you a bit I was just denying it to myself. X"


"Well what if I wanted to meet up after the pregnancy as I wanted to get to know you more, which I do x"


"I want to be at the appointment. And I want to see you afterwards, many times. I'm not cutting contact as I like you and want this pregnancy behind us, so we can go on properly"


What do you think he has in mind for us afterwards? FWB? Relationship? He knows I like him. But I've also said I could just leave if after the abortion if that's what he wants, but he says he wants to keep in touch. I want to know where I stand before this over with and I pour my emotions out on him becoming attached.




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