I've been dating this guy for nearly 2 months now, we were close friends for sometime beforehand and Its going well, but 3 of my closest friends don't approve. Whenever I mention him they change the subject or give a disapproving look. At first I thought they were being protective. They say that the have their reasons, mostly that they think we're going to fast.
I confessed that we had said the "L" word. Which they said it was way too soon and I couldn't possibly know.
They also said that it happened soon after I had broken up with an ex. I explained that with my ex we saw each other 2 times in 2 months and then it ended. We also didn't speak for 3 weeks. So it wasn't really a great love affair!
They continued to say that I was really young and naive and the whole thing was so odd. This really hurt as I have tried not to judge their past relationships. It also didn't help when the said that the flowers and chocolates he got me were just to buy me off, and that he probably had some secret agenda of hurting me.
I just don't understand how they can keep being so negative and won't accept the situation. I don't want to fall out with them about it, but it is very frustrating. I just want them to be happy for me and tell them all of the nice things, and then to listen to me like I do about their boyfriends. Instead I'm having to holdback and smile through their criticsm. I feel like this just creates distance as I no longer want to talk to them about it, and it makes meetings awkward. All of my other friends like him and so do my parents, so it just leads me to wonder why can't they?
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