I was reading this article Is The Cheating Spouse Living With Regret? and the responses are very much worth reading.
Especially this one:
I think the cheating spouse will only regret their decision if they lose something because of it. I don't think the cheating spouse regrets cheating if the wife/husband decides to stay and work on the marriage. Because if they don't divorce…. then what did they really lose? Nothing. Sure they created a problem and will have arguments, but in the end they win. They cheat and have fun… and as a result end up with a better marriage than they had before. For them it's a win win situation, and for us betrayed spouses we suffer and lose everything. I've lost my sanity and my sense of security. I've lost everything I thought I had. My H lost nothing. I'm here the kids are here. What did he lose?
Especially this one:
I think the cheating spouse will only regret their decision if they lose something because of it. I don't think the cheating spouse regrets cheating if the wife/husband decides to stay and work on the marriage. Because if they don't divorce…. then what did they really lose? Nothing. Sure they created a problem and will have arguments, but in the end they win. They cheat and have fun… and as a result end up with a better marriage than they had before. For them it's a win win situation, and for us betrayed spouses we suffer and lose everything. I've lost my sanity and my sense of security. I've lost everything I thought I had. My H lost nothing. I'm here the kids are here. What did he lose?
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