I have been married a while now. I won't give years as to remain semi-anonymous. I have been faithful to my wife since we have been married. At first, I just thought she was snooping on me occasionally. I am very detail oriented. I would notice a program on my phone seemed to have opened. I might notice my search history had an old result at the top.
Then, my wife started randomly asking questions about things she saw in my browser history. I can accept that. I mean, they are out of context, so it isn't fair to bring them up... still, I don't mind someone clearing the air and caring. After a while though, it starts getting annoying. You start feeling cautious about what you might accidentally look at or do that seems suspicious.
I do not care about any of that. I am a better anti-spy than anyone could possibly spy on me anyway. So, I started clearing all history and leaving no record of anything I did. I start noticing that the settings magically change every now and then. So, I installed a program to monitor my computer. It was disturbing. I can see her changing settings and snooping all around. It was way more involved than I thought. She was logging into accounts and looking at any possible detail. Still, what bothers me most is that she keeps beating a dead horse by trying to enable settings to keep history. It is the first thing that I check, so it hasn't worked in a long time.
I do not get why she won't just leave it alone? Further, why won't she just come out and talk to me? I don't hide anything when asked. That part bothers me. This next part is what bothers me the most. Her suspicion got me curious. I started looking into her stuff to even the field. Needless to say, she is not as open as me. She decided to lock her phone when she first thought I looked at it. I have nothing to hide, so I don't worry about mine. I just leave it out with no locks on it. She knows all of my passwords, but she started rotating hers constantly.
When she thought that I might have solved one, she gets a new one. She really keeps escalating. Honestly, it is an unfair game, since I just like puzzles. I don't even care what is on the phone or any of her accounts. I just like the game and do so because she is spying on me. I just cannot figure out why she would spy on me, but then be so hypocritical to want her own privacy in all of the areas that she invades mine?
I have seen nothing that leads me to believe that she is doing anything like cheating. Although, she goes to great extents to hide her messages. I have caught her lying to me a few times about where she was or what she was doing because of them, but nothing about those lies involved a situation where it seemed like she was cheating or anything. They seemed like trivial lies with no real reason to make them. In fact, I didn't even call her out on them. I just remember that I caught them. So, she doesn't even know that I am aware.
Usually, I find these lies when she thinks that I can't access her information, so she isn't planting them. When she is paranoid, she just deleted anything right away. The odd part is that she picks and chooses. She will delete certain lines of a message set or only a few conversations. Sure, I shouldn't bother or spy back anyway. I only started because I didn't like her doing it to me. I just don't understand why she is so secretive and why she would lie/hide things like she is up to something? Especially if she is so fast to be always watching me and trying to find some sort of dirt?
The worst part is that she lies about looking. If I look, I say that I got into your stuff. Time to change it again and laugh. She has logged into my accounts, read messages, got mad at me, then had a fight about them. She will then tell me she didn't do it. She thought it was her browser or it was her account. I must have left it logged in... somehow she didn't notice and just happened to load and open messages without every seeing it wasn't her's and read through them without knowing. Same issue... Why is she lying about things like this? I am very alarmed at how often she is lying to me about little issues or being extra secretive without cause.
Then, my wife started randomly asking questions about things she saw in my browser history. I can accept that. I mean, they are out of context, so it isn't fair to bring them up... still, I don't mind someone clearing the air and caring. After a while though, it starts getting annoying. You start feeling cautious about what you might accidentally look at or do that seems suspicious.
I do not care about any of that. I am a better anti-spy than anyone could possibly spy on me anyway. So, I started clearing all history and leaving no record of anything I did. I start noticing that the settings magically change every now and then. So, I installed a program to monitor my computer. It was disturbing. I can see her changing settings and snooping all around. It was way more involved than I thought. She was logging into accounts and looking at any possible detail. Still, what bothers me most is that she keeps beating a dead horse by trying to enable settings to keep history. It is the first thing that I check, so it hasn't worked in a long time.
I do not get why she won't just leave it alone? Further, why won't she just come out and talk to me? I don't hide anything when asked. That part bothers me. This next part is what bothers me the most. Her suspicion got me curious. I started looking into her stuff to even the field. Needless to say, she is not as open as me. She decided to lock her phone when she first thought I looked at it. I have nothing to hide, so I don't worry about mine. I just leave it out with no locks on it. She knows all of my passwords, but she started rotating hers constantly.
When she thought that I might have solved one, she gets a new one. She really keeps escalating. Honestly, it is an unfair game, since I just like puzzles. I don't even care what is on the phone or any of her accounts. I just like the game and do so because she is spying on me. I just cannot figure out why she would spy on me, but then be so hypocritical to want her own privacy in all of the areas that she invades mine?
I have seen nothing that leads me to believe that she is doing anything like cheating. Although, she goes to great extents to hide her messages. I have caught her lying to me a few times about where she was or what she was doing because of them, but nothing about those lies involved a situation where it seemed like she was cheating or anything. They seemed like trivial lies with no real reason to make them. In fact, I didn't even call her out on them. I just remember that I caught them. So, she doesn't even know that I am aware.
Usually, I find these lies when she thinks that I can't access her information, so she isn't planting them. When she is paranoid, she just deleted anything right away. The odd part is that she picks and chooses. She will delete certain lines of a message set or only a few conversations. Sure, I shouldn't bother or spy back anyway. I only started because I didn't like her doing it to me. I just don't understand why she is so secretive and why she would lie/hide things like she is up to something? Especially if she is so fast to be always watching me and trying to find some sort of dirt?
The worst part is that she lies about looking. If I look, I say that I got into your stuff. Time to change it again and laugh. She has logged into my accounts, read messages, got mad at me, then had a fight about them. She will then tell me she didn't do it. She thought it was her browser or it was her account. I must have left it logged in... somehow she didn't notice and just happened to load and open messages without every seeing it wasn't her's and read through them without knowing. Same issue... Why is she lying about things like this? I am very alarmed at how often she is lying to me about little issues or being extra secretive without cause.
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