Hi everyone,
I was having a discussion with some co-workers this morning and I was wondering how the TAM community would respond. Let me say up front I'm a man and am looking at this from my perspective(this isn't meant to be a male/female bashing thread).
Our discussion was focused on what we collectively called the "man-child"(or women-child). It seems there are a lot of grown adults out there who seem to spend more time in recreational activities than with their families. Whether it's participating in sports, going to bars or playing video games these men seem to value their recreation time more than family time.
A couple of examples from people who are close to me…….all of these people have families. They do these activities without their families;
My BIL is into hockey. He has a game or practice 3 times per week(I know, we've had to watch his kids on occasion). He leaves from work to go to hockey, usually gets home late(after 11:00).
A couple of my friends are season ticket holders for the Patriots. On game days they head down in the morning, attend the game and usually go out to dinner after the game. This past year they spent big bucks and actually went to the Super Bowl! In the spring/summer they'll go to Red Sox games frequently but aren't ticket holders.
My boss is an avid golfer. He's in a couple of leagues so afternoon's in the summertime(usually Mondays and Wednesdays) he'll leave work early to play. I know he gets home late from golfing, he also golfs on the weekend but I'm unaware how often. In a couple of weeks he's heading to Florida with a couple of buddies for a week long golf getaway……they do this every spring.
I know these guys do other activities as well without their families, I just didn't put in all the other stuff(poker night/skiing/etc).
For perspective, I used to go to a gym a few nights a week after work, I'd get home an hour later than usual…….I felt guilty about that. Now I have everything for working out in my basement. I guess I value the time I spend with the fam-damily.
So in general how do you folks feel about this? I know everyone should have hobbies and "get-away" time but how much is too much? When I grew up if there was recreation involved the whole family did it. We'd all go fishing or hiking or to the movies…….my dad would take me hunting. How and when did this behavior begin to manifest itself? I know in a couple of the examples above the men came from broken families(i.e. weak or no fathers). Is it due to people having more disposable income? Is it a reflection of the deterioration of the family unit? Are there women who also have this problem and have trouble growing up? Is it as prevalent in women as it is in men?
I was having a discussion with some co-workers this morning and I was wondering how the TAM community would respond. Let me say up front I'm a man and am looking at this from my perspective(this isn't meant to be a male/female bashing thread).
Our discussion was focused on what we collectively called the "man-child"(or women-child). It seems there are a lot of grown adults out there who seem to spend more time in recreational activities than with their families. Whether it's participating in sports, going to bars or playing video games these men seem to value their recreation time more than family time.
A couple of examples from people who are close to me…….all of these people have families. They do these activities without their families;
My BIL is into hockey. He has a game or practice 3 times per week(I know, we've had to watch his kids on occasion). He leaves from work to go to hockey, usually gets home late(after 11:00).
A couple of my friends are season ticket holders for the Patriots. On game days they head down in the morning, attend the game and usually go out to dinner after the game. This past year they spent big bucks and actually went to the Super Bowl! In the spring/summer they'll go to Red Sox games frequently but aren't ticket holders.
My boss is an avid golfer. He's in a couple of leagues so afternoon's in the summertime(usually Mondays and Wednesdays) he'll leave work early to play. I know he gets home late from golfing, he also golfs on the weekend but I'm unaware how often. In a couple of weeks he's heading to Florida with a couple of buddies for a week long golf getaway……they do this every spring.
I know these guys do other activities as well without their families, I just didn't put in all the other stuff(poker night/skiing/etc).
For perspective, I used to go to a gym a few nights a week after work, I'd get home an hour later than usual…….I felt guilty about that. Now I have everything for working out in my basement. I guess I value the time I spend with the fam-damily.
So in general how do you folks feel about this? I know everyone should have hobbies and "get-away" time but how much is too much? When I grew up if there was recreation involved the whole family did it. We'd all go fishing or hiking or to the movies…….my dad would take me hunting. How and when did this behavior begin to manifest itself? I know in a couple of the examples above the men came from broken families(i.e. weak or no fathers). Is it due to people having more disposable income? Is it a reflection of the deterioration of the family unit? Are there women who also have this problem and have trouble growing up? Is it as prevalent in women as it is in men?
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