So my wife and I recently got married and we are both rather young, I am 24 and she is 22. We are enjoying marriage very much and love each other very much.
However I often times (and I try to be understanding as I realize she is only 22, just moved out, and lives so close to home) feel that she is overly attached to her family. I usually try to keep my mouth shut because she has never lived away from her parents until now, and I left a few years ago. We live only about 5 minutes away from her family and we are also very close to mine which is great.
To put it into perspective as to what I mean I will give you the details of what is currently going on.
Yesterday we attended a high-school basketball game of her brothers with her family. I didn't mind because I am glad she wanted to support her younger brother.
Today we went out for lunch for her (first year in college) younger sisters birthday (with her family of course). Again very nice and I am not the least bit opposed to celebrating a birthday.
Sunday we are going out again for her sisters birthday with the other side of the family.
Tonight she wishes to go to her parents house just to hang out I suppose and I personally would simply rather stay home and enjoy a Saturday night with my wife alone.
I told her that I really don't care to go over to her parents tonight as we spent time with her family yesterday, today, and we will tomorrow. It is not that I have a problem with them but it just feels like they come first.
I think she is way too attached to her family, I see my family very frequently as well, but I also enjoy spending time with my wife alone.
Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go over to her familys house and feeling like she is too attached to her family? So many times I just feel like they come before me. Of course though when I bring this up I am the bad guy and I am so mean.....
I do realize this all probably sounds very childish but I just chose to pick an example that is currently happening and I was hoping for advice...
TIA!
However I often times (and I try to be understanding as I realize she is only 22, just moved out, and lives so close to home) feel that she is overly attached to her family. I usually try to keep my mouth shut because she has never lived away from her parents until now, and I left a few years ago. We live only about 5 minutes away from her family and we are also very close to mine which is great.
To put it into perspective as to what I mean I will give you the details of what is currently going on.
Yesterday we attended a high-school basketball game of her brothers with her family. I didn't mind because I am glad she wanted to support her younger brother.
Today we went out for lunch for her (first year in college) younger sisters birthday (with her family of course). Again very nice and I am not the least bit opposed to celebrating a birthday.
Sunday we are going out again for her sisters birthday with the other side of the family.
Tonight she wishes to go to her parents house just to hang out I suppose and I personally would simply rather stay home and enjoy a Saturday night with my wife alone.
I told her that I really don't care to go over to her parents tonight as we spent time with her family yesterday, today, and we will tomorrow. It is not that I have a problem with them but it just feels like they come first.
I think she is way too attached to her family, I see my family very frequently as well, but I also enjoy spending time with my wife alone.
Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go over to her familys house and feeling like she is too attached to her family? So many times I just feel like they come before me. Of course though when I bring this up I am the bad guy and I am so mean.....
I do realize this all probably sounds very childish but I just chose to pick an example that is currently happening and I was hoping for advice...
TIA!
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