My male friend (I'm female) who I've been good friends with for years has out of the blue stopped talking to me or making any effort with me.
He has some on/off relationship with a girl who lives 100s of miles away, and he hasnt told any of his friends other than me, that she exists or that she's his gf. the only things he's told me about her is that she always goes mental at him and argues with him, and he regularly left in tears after angry phonecalls from her. he had the opportunity for me to meet her, but lied to me and her to prevent us meeting (which was odd). I asked him why he didnt want us to meet, and he said its because she always argues with him and he didnt want me to see that and to get a bad impression. I think this is rubbish and that there must be more to it than that.
i think he's been in this secret relationship on and off for a long time, and because he hasnt told anyone she exists or that he has a gf, he's been regularly cheating on her. he's kissed a lot of people and slept with people too.
i know im assuming stuff here, but i think he didnt want me to meet her because he was probably worried i'd let slip about him kissing or sleeping with people (when why would anyone randomly bring that up in conversation anyway...).
the weird thing is, I found out recently from most of my friends that apparently he's been telling everyone that he 'fancies' me. i find this odd because if he's had a girlfriend this whole time, then he cant exactly expect me to want to date him?
i also think that maybe hes told this secret gf that he fancies me, and as a result she hates me/dislikes me and doesnt want him to talk to me anymore. he has also unfriended a lot of girls he was friends with from facebook, for no apparent reason.
do you think i should ask him whats going on, and talk to him about it, or just leave it? he hasnt spoken to me for months after admitting to lying to me about stuff. i think if i try to talk to him he'll just lie more. its upsetting because he was a good friend and i value him a lot, but im just not sure i want to be friends with someone who has so much drama and secrets, it all seems a bit silly and hassle, especially because he's dragged me into it.
any advice?
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