My wife and I have been married for 5 years. I'm 29 and she is 34. We have no children. I have a very high sex drive (I'd prefer sex twice a day but would be happy to settle for once a week) and my wife it seems has no sex drive anymore. I'm active duty military and we is a stay at home wife. I tend to work long hours but I'm always willing to fight through exhaustion if it means I'll get to make love to my wife. My wife is on the heavy set side with a curvy shape that I love. I know she is self conscious about her weight and appearance and I try to do everything possible to reassure her that I think she is beautiful. It's completely out of my control how attracted to her I am. For example, we'll be in our bedroom changing clothes, I'll be in my underwear and she'll take off her shirt and bra which immediately results in me getting an erection. The combination of my attraction to my beautiful wife and the lack of sex makes this a sure thing to h appen every time. She usually just sees it happen and playfully says "wow really, that's ridiculous. I tell her that I find her very sexy and she turns me on, to which she usually replies, "Wow, I'm sorry."
I can go on and on but to put it simply the only time we ever have sex is when I initiate and she's tired of telling me no and decides its just easier to give in and have sex than it is to say no again. This only seems to happen once every few months. I've read that sometimes the person with the higher sex drive needs to back on and let the other person initiate when the mood hits them so they feel more like they're the one with the urge rather than the person just giving in to their partners constant attempts for sex. I tried this method... it resulted in no sex for 7 months and during this time my wife never tried to initiate sex, never even mentioned it once for that matter.
Like I said, we've been married for 5 years, together for 6. Of course at first we couldn't keep our hands off of each other but over the first year the frequency slowly reduced. No it's the the point where I'm usually masturbating to internet porn twice daily just to keep my pent up urges in check. I am a married man and take that very seriously so I would never have an affair, however, given my currently situation, I can very well see why someone would. I vowed to be faithful, not celibate.
Theres a new interesting development with this situation. My wife has told me that she's ready to have a child. She wants to try for a baby but doesn't seem to have any interest in the process for making that happen. When we first got married we didn't have the money for a honeymoon. Well, we recently went on our "5 years after we got married" honeymoon. We went to Ireland for 21 days. Prior to the trip I talked to my wife and asked if we could come to an agreement. We'll be on our honeymoon for 21 days in a country we've both dreamed of visiting all our lives and we're both feel now is the right time to have a baby. Can we at least agree to have sex every night during the honeymoon. My wife said that was fair and sounded like it would be fun. I was shocked but reserved in my enthusiasm. Long story short, by the time we returned from the honeymoon we had only had sex twice and both times she pretty much just laid there and let me do my thing so I'd leave her along about it. Call me crazy but somehow the sex just isn't as enjoyable or passionate when I'm making love to a living sex doll.
Anyway I could go on for hours and hours about this. I'm open to any suggestions.
If I've been too vague in any part of my description please let me know. I welcome all advise and criticism.
I can go on and on but to put it simply the only time we ever have sex is when I initiate and she's tired of telling me no and decides its just easier to give in and have sex than it is to say no again. This only seems to happen once every few months. I've read that sometimes the person with the higher sex drive needs to back on and let the other person initiate when the mood hits them so they feel more like they're the one with the urge rather than the person just giving in to their partners constant attempts for sex. I tried this method... it resulted in no sex for 7 months and during this time my wife never tried to initiate sex, never even mentioned it once for that matter.
Like I said, we've been married for 5 years, together for 6. Of course at first we couldn't keep our hands off of each other but over the first year the frequency slowly reduced. No it's the the point where I'm usually masturbating to internet porn twice daily just to keep my pent up urges in check. I am a married man and take that very seriously so I would never have an affair, however, given my currently situation, I can very well see why someone would. I vowed to be faithful, not celibate.
Theres a new interesting development with this situation. My wife has told me that she's ready to have a child. She wants to try for a baby but doesn't seem to have any interest in the process for making that happen. When we first got married we didn't have the money for a honeymoon. Well, we recently went on our "5 years after we got married" honeymoon. We went to Ireland for 21 days. Prior to the trip I talked to my wife and asked if we could come to an agreement. We'll be on our honeymoon for 21 days in a country we've both dreamed of visiting all our lives and we're both feel now is the right time to have a baby. Can we at least agree to have sex every night during the honeymoon. My wife said that was fair and sounded like it would be fun. I was shocked but reserved in my enthusiasm. Long story short, by the time we returned from the honeymoon we had only had sex twice and both times she pretty much just laid there and let me do my thing so I'd leave her along about it. Call me crazy but somehow the sex just isn't as enjoyable or passionate when I'm making love to a living sex doll.
Anyway I could go on for hours and hours about this. I'm open to any suggestions.
If I've been too vague in any part of my description please let me know. I welcome all advise and criticism.
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