My wife told me today that she wants a divorce as she is moving in a more serious direction with her spirituality. I am a standard non-believer and have been throughout our 12 year marriage, to which she professed from the beginning that she was ok with.
Over the last year she rekindled her faith which she had strayed from before we had even met. She has grown so involved in the church, I can't relate to any of her friends and many of the activities in which she is involved. To make matters worse, she has clinical depression and refuses to take her medication as she says if she stays on top of reading her scriptures she doesn't need it to be who she wants to be. Which, unfortunately is a person that experiences such highs and lows that before the meds came along, I was at the end of my rope. When she got help it completely turned things around for us.
This would be her third failed marriage and my first and I am at a loss as to how to cope. We have two sons together, along with a son and daughter, one each from each of her previous marriages.
She says that she doesn't want to force me into religion as it wouldn't be fair to me, but that she wants a spiritual partner. I want to save my marriage and offered to make an effort to find my faith, but I fear it will not only be too little too late, but that I will only be fooling myself.
I don't want my children to have to endure being torn between two parents. I grew up that way and when I chose to marry, I had done so for life. If she insists that we are so different because of the recent changes she has realized through her faith and won't make the effort to stay on the medication that truly does help her to be more stable, I don't know what to do... I love my wife and my family and I don't want to lose what I have spent the last 12 years of my life building... Please help...
Over the last year she rekindled her faith which she had strayed from before we had even met. She has grown so involved in the church, I can't relate to any of her friends and many of the activities in which she is involved. To make matters worse, she has clinical depression and refuses to take her medication as she says if she stays on top of reading her scriptures she doesn't need it to be who she wants to be. Which, unfortunately is a person that experiences such highs and lows that before the meds came along, I was at the end of my rope. When she got help it completely turned things around for us.
This would be her third failed marriage and my first and I am at a loss as to how to cope. We have two sons together, along with a son and daughter, one each from each of her previous marriages.
She says that she doesn't want to force me into religion as it wouldn't be fair to me, but that she wants a spiritual partner. I want to save my marriage and offered to make an effort to find my faith, but I fear it will not only be too little too late, but that I will only be fooling myself.
I don't want my children to have to endure being torn between two parents. I grew up that way and when I chose to marry, I had done so for life. If she insists that we are so different because of the recent changes she has realized through her faith and won't make the effort to stay on the medication that truly does help her to be more stable, I don't know what to do... I love my wife and my family and I don't want to lose what I have spent the last 12 years of my life building... Please help...
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