Hello there everyone, I am here for some advice. I will try to make my story brief. I am 34 and my wife is 30, we have been together 8 years and married almost 5, we have a son who is soon to be 4 and a 1 year old daughter. For almost two years now we have been struggling financially, have borrowed money from my folks a few times and are behind on several bills. As you might guess when ever money talk starts the fighting starts. I work full time and she stays home with the kids. It just seems that no matter what we do there isn't enough money and thus we are always fighting. She claims to be looking for work as a babysitter to bring in money but every time she finds something she finds something wrong with it. Today we were involved in one of our all too regular fights and she told me the last job offer which would bring in about 150 a week was no good because it didn't pay enough. I got really upset about this as in my mind 150 a week is somethi ng, better than 0 a week.
Well the fighting about money turned into fighting about everything and she told me she was very unhappy being married to me and she was taking the kids to her parents for the night. I know she tells her mom everything but I feel she puts a spin on it to make me the bad guy who is picking on her. To be honest I am unhappy too and have been for a while. I just don't know what to do anymore. I love my kids and don't want to only see them every once in a while but I don't know if staying married is a good idea. My wife points out all the time that we shouldn't fight in front of the kids and I agree 100% but when the kids aren't around I can't usually get her to even acknowledge I am in the room. She usually say she just needs time to relax and not be stressed.
I know she works hard as a stay at home mom but I work my butt off to provide for the family as we'll. unfortunately it seems that I can't make enought money to get us out of the hole. I ask if here are things we can cut back on for a while but I never get any constructive ideas. Usually what I get is a sigh and the in tears she will tell me how she will go back to work full time and we will have to find daycare but then all her money will go to daycare and it is pointless.
I guess what I am looking for advice wise is where to go from here. She is unhappy I am unhappy and we are broke. I don't want to be away from my kids but I don't want to constantly fight with my wife. Any suggestions?
Well the fighting about money turned into fighting about everything and she told me she was very unhappy being married to me and she was taking the kids to her parents for the night. I know she tells her mom everything but I feel she puts a spin on it to make me the bad guy who is picking on her. To be honest I am unhappy too and have been for a while. I just don't know what to do anymore. I love my kids and don't want to only see them every once in a while but I don't know if staying married is a good idea. My wife points out all the time that we shouldn't fight in front of the kids and I agree 100% but when the kids aren't around I can't usually get her to even acknowledge I am in the room. She usually say she just needs time to relax and not be stressed.
I know she works hard as a stay at home mom but I work my butt off to provide for the family as we'll. unfortunately it seems that I can't make enought money to get us out of the hole. I ask if here are things we can cut back on for a while but I never get any constructive ideas. Usually what I get is a sigh and the in tears she will tell me how she will go back to work full time and we will have to find daycare but then all her money will go to daycare and it is pointless.
I guess what I am looking for advice wise is where to go from here. She is unhappy I am unhappy and we are broke. I don't want to be away from my kids but I don't want to constantly fight with my wife. Any suggestions?
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