So two things I am thinking about today. Both arn't big deals but I wanted a second opinion on each incident from folks if y'all have the patience to read them! :)
1. My husband and I went out with his friend last night for a couple of drinks. Everything was great but I asked the guy if he had watched 50 shades of grey yet? And if he would be interested to go watch it? I guess I offended my husband cause it is too 'sexy' and there was no reason I should have asked his single guy friend if he saw it. Please be aware I didnt ask him to go see it with us or anything. I just wanted to know if he would see it. I didnt know it was inappropriate question cause for me it was supposed to funny. I thought the guys would just be like uhh noo only girls like that kind of stupid romance thing. I saw my husband's face become a little like 'why is she asking my single guy friend this?'... He said "Whyyy are you asking him that?" I defended myself and said "why not, Im just trying to see if there is an appeal to men as well cause women seem to love it and its all over the place." And my husband said well women like that because it is new and there have nt been bondage movies or books before so its risque. Why would men like it. Why are you asking everyone if they watched it. Its wierd. You asked the same thing to Jon and Jason that too this morning...?" (I had asked two other guy friends of his if they had seen it earlier that day when we all went out to lunch together).Anyways, I had NO IDEA he was uncomfortable with it. He hadnt told me. I wouldnt have asked if I knew. We were also talking about other movies too so it wasnt like I just asked them out of the blue. So, then in the evening when I asked this friend of his who is a guy and single the same question, he snaped at me and says all those things to me IN FRONT of the guy. My husband also says to me "Just stop, I don't want to hear anything about 50 shades of grey anymore!" And I snapped back at him and said "well Tom (his friend) asked me a question as to why I was interested in the movie and I was answering him...I dont know what problem you have with it, anyways , nevermind! " I just think it is so embarrassing that all this happened in front of that stupid friend of his, who already judges us cause we bicker like this all the time. I had told my husband to not scold me, snap at me in front of people before several times!!
1. What are your thoughts on the incident?
2. Did he embarrass me and HIMSELF because of his public outburst.
3. Is he right? Am I asking slightly inappropriate questions to his single guy friends?
The second incident happened the same night. While we were all chatting for a while, my husband and his friend then started talking about football which I know nothing about. I was already a little pissed at him over the other thing and so when they started going on and on about football for 5 minutes I decided to not interject. Usually I interject and ask questions or try to change the topic as I also want to be included but this time i JUST couldn't be bothered and I let it slide so see until when they can talk about football without having any consideration for me who is sitting next to them! They went on and on for ages, to me seemed like a long time cause I was staring blankly from one guys face to another, like for 15-20 minutes I think..anyways while I stare blankly at them, not once did my HUSBAND look at me or change the subject knowing I knew nothing about it and had no interest in football all the while that I was sitting next to him plus it was HIS friend not mine so I was going out FOR him.
1. Do you think it is rude and inconsiderate of him to do this to me? Do you have any thoughts of what I should have done?
We fought when we got home but then he apologized for each incident and I also apologized for asking the 50 shades question and said I wouldnt anymore. He said he would try to not snap at me again and that he will be more conscious of football if I am there. BUT HE HAS PROMISED ME THESE THINGS BEFORE AND KEEPS MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES...HE ONCE WENT ON FOR 30 MINUTES ABOUT SOCCER WITH GUYS HE MET IN THE BAR WHEN I WAS NEXT TO HIM SO I GOT REALLY MAD CAUSE THEY WERE STRANGERS AND I WAS HIS WIFE. HE SAID SORRY AND HASNT DONE THAT SINCE. However the snapping part he has done over and over again. Although he has gotten better with time. But it still hurts and embarrasses me.
1. My husband and I went out with his friend last night for a couple of drinks. Everything was great but I asked the guy if he had watched 50 shades of grey yet? And if he would be interested to go watch it? I guess I offended my husband cause it is too 'sexy' and there was no reason I should have asked his single guy friend if he saw it. Please be aware I didnt ask him to go see it with us or anything. I just wanted to know if he would see it. I didnt know it was inappropriate question cause for me it was supposed to funny. I thought the guys would just be like uhh noo only girls like that kind of stupid romance thing. I saw my husband's face become a little like 'why is she asking my single guy friend this?'... He said "Whyyy are you asking him that?" I defended myself and said "why not, Im just trying to see if there is an appeal to men as well cause women seem to love it and its all over the place." And my husband said well women like that because it is new and there have nt been bondage movies or books before so its risque. Why would men like it. Why are you asking everyone if they watched it. Its wierd. You asked the same thing to Jon and Jason that too this morning...?" (I had asked two other guy friends of his if they had seen it earlier that day when we all went out to lunch together).Anyways, I had NO IDEA he was uncomfortable with it. He hadnt told me. I wouldnt have asked if I knew. We were also talking about other movies too so it wasnt like I just asked them out of the blue. So, then in the evening when I asked this friend of his who is a guy and single the same question, he snaped at me and says all those things to me IN FRONT of the guy. My husband also says to me "Just stop, I don't want to hear anything about 50 shades of grey anymore!" And I snapped back at him and said "well Tom (his friend) asked me a question as to why I was interested in the movie and I was answering him...I dont know what problem you have with it, anyways , nevermind! " I just think it is so embarrassing that all this happened in front of that stupid friend of his, who already judges us cause we bicker like this all the time. I had told my husband to not scold me, snap at me in front of people before several times!!
1. What are your thoughts on the incident?
2. Did he embarrass me and HIMSELF because of his public outburst.
3. Is he right? Am I asking slightly inappropriate questions to his single guy friends?
The second incident happened the same night. While we were all chatting for a while, my husband and his friend then started talking about football which I know nothing about. I was already a little pissed at him over the other thing and so when they started going on and on about football for 5 minutes I decided to not interject. Usually I interject and ask questions or try to change the topic as I also want to be included but this time i JUST couldn't be bothered and I let it slide so see until when they can talk about football without having any consideration for me who is sitting next to them! They went on and on for ages, to me seemed like a long time cause I was staring blankly from one guys face to another, like for 15-20 minutes I think..anyways while I stare blankly at them, not once did my HUSBAND look at me or change the subject knowing I knew nothing about it and had no interest in football all the while that I was sitting next to him plus it was HIS friend not mine so I was going out FOR him.
1. Do you think it is rude and inconsiderate of him to do this to me? Do you have any thoughts of what I should have done?
We fought when we got home but then he apologized for each incident and I also apologized for asking the 50 shades question and said I wouldnt anymore. He said he would try to not snap at me again and that he will be more conscious of football if I am there. BUT HE HAS PROMISED ME THESE THINGS BEFORE AND KEEPS MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES...HE ONCE WENT ON FOR 30 MINUTES ABOUT SOCCER WITH GUYS HE MET IN THE BAR WHEN I WAS NEXT TO HIM SO I GOT REALLY MAD CAUSE THEY WERE STRANGERS AND I WAS HIS WIFE. HE SAID SORRY AND HASNT DONE THAT SINCE. However the snapping part he has done over and over again. Although he has gotten better with time. But it still hurts and embarrasses me.
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