My husband and I briefly separated about 5 months ago when I discovered an old coworker of his sent him some inappropriate pictures. Although he did not reciprocate any feelings or attractions did her, he briefly saved them as it was a boost to his ego. He deleted them almost immediately, however I found them in his trash about a year later. We separated for month as I was unsure at the time if anything else had happened. During our separation my husband was upset, and told many of our friends and family about the details of what happened.
We went to a councilor many times, and were able to work out our issues regarding the problems. We are now closer than ever, however I am struggling with our family and in particular our friends possibly judging us for what happened. We are in twenties and our friends are also very young, and most of them are unmarried and can not relate to our relationship problems. I'm worried that they see him negatively for what happened, as well as me for taking him back. We were always seen as the perfect couple, and I feel sick when I think of everyone judging us and talking to us about others.
I've reached out to several friends who just tell me not to worry about what others think. I find this not to be helpful as this is not realistic for me for. I think about this every moment of day. I worry that this humiliation I feel is going to ruin my marriage and my life. I want to move away and start somewhere new with my husband, but he believes this is just my attempt to ruin away from the problem and we will regret it.
Has anyone else had to deal with the details of their separation going public? How did they handle it?
We went to a councilor many times, and were able to work out our issues regarding the problems. We are now closer than ever, however I am struggling with our family and in particular our friends possibly judging us for what happened. We are in twenties and our friends are also very young, and most of them are unmarried and can not relate to our relationship problems. I'm worried that they see him negatively for what happened, as well as me for taking him back. We were always seen as the perfect couple, and I feel sick when I think of everyone judging us and talking to us about others.
I've reached out to several friends who just tell me not to worry about what others think. I find this not to be helpful as this is not realistic for me for. I think about this every moment of day. I worry that this humiliation I feel is going to ruin my marriage and my life. I want to move away and start somewhere new with my husband, but he believes this is just my attempt to ruin away from the problem and we will regret it.
Has anyone else had to deal with the details of their separation going public? How did they handle it?
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