I love my wife and we have a great relationship 99% of the time. She moved in to our current location because of me and she is a devoted wife in all aspects (we have no kids yet). However, I do believe that she cares way too much about her friends sometimes and that has brought issues in the past.
Let me give you an example, before we got married, a friend of her who lives out of town was in a 1 hour away nearby city. It was his birthday and she with another girlfriend wanted to go and give him a surprise on a weekday night. The guy is married and was having dinner with his family in a restaurant. At that time I expressed my concerns for the trip but she would have driven herself if I refused, so I preferred driving myself because she is not a good driver and the trip was long and at night time. Everything went OK.
After we got a married, a close friend of her was in town on a vacation trip and she picked her in a far away area of the city to meet with another friend in the opposite side of town for dinner again on a weekday. It was close to midnight and she was still driving her friend back to the hotel before having to come back home. We had a discussion and I brought up the first trip example as a way to express my feelings about her commitment to friends.
Recently, this friend decided to get married within 1 week in another state. I work that weekend and I told her that I don't think she should go. We had a huge argument and we both are hurt as many things were said. I even said that I was afraid that if we have kids and a friend was nearby she will put the kids in danger by driving to a nearby town...
I do have to say that most of the time we hang out with my married friends that also happen to be friends of hers. She has one friend who is always out on party mode as she is single and l told her that I don't want people to associate her with that specific firend (I have my reasons).
I would like to hear your thoughts. Am I being unreasonable?
Let me give you an example, before we got married, a friend of her who lives out of town was in a 1 hour away nearby city. It was his birthday and she with another girlfriend wanted to go and give him a surprise on a weekday night. The guy is married and was having dinner with his family in a restaurant. At that time I expressed my concerns for the trip but she would have driven herself if I refused, so I preferred driving myself because she is not a good driver and the trip was long and at night time. Everything went OK.
After we got a married, a close friend of her was in town on a vacation trip and she picked her in a far away area of the city to meet with another friend in the opposite side of town for dinner again on a weekday. It was close to midnight and she was still driving her friend back to the hotel before having to come back home. We had a discussion and I brought up the first trip example as a way to express my feelings about her commitment to friends.
Recently, this friend decided to get married within 1 week in another state. I work that weekend and I told her that I don't think she should go. We had a huge argument and we both are hurt as many things were said. I even said that I was afraid that if we have kids and a friend was nearby she will put the kids in danger by driving to a nearby town...
I do have to say that most of the time we hang out with my married friends that also happen to be friends of hers. She has one friend who is always out on party mode as she is single and l told her that I don't want people to associate her with that specific firend (I have my reasons).
I would like to hear your thoughts. Am I being unreasonable?
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