Hi guys... I'm going to try to make this short as possible. I LEFT my husband last year for discovering online hook up sites and sexting. He deployed and the entire deployment he acted like a jerk. He attempted to get me back but I said no . As soon as I asked for proof of his love for me ABD proof I could TRUST him the worst he got. I waited and waited. He dissed me n kids never once SKYPE with us or kids. The only person he became best friends with that he was once a enemy with was his ex wife.
So then three days before he was coming home he skyped with me to.my surprise later on I found out it was only to see if I was home. His ex wife and daughter welcomed him home! Then after that hit... I came home and there was chaos because I called his commander and told him everything. Few weeks later he disses me n our boys in a snow storm and leaves to Indiana to be with his family. Didn't tell me until I.looked I. Phone bill n he was on hours on end with his ex wife. That when I found out he was on a plane to Indiana. He keeps doing horrible things but I keep fighting for our marriage . Showing him setter FIVE years abd this **** he's pulled he's still worth fighting for.
Then recently after doing the 180 advice it worked. We started having amazing sex I started changing. Some how he's made me feel like I am the one one who needs to change. So I've felt so guilty.I've noticed though I'm just letting him do b whatever for sake being a family.
Then I'm like what is going on I cannot even tell you your wrong ABD disrespectful without you saying we don't get along or I'm worthless. He says he doesn't love me anymore but yet plays family with me.... Then data your getting your hopes up. It's like a cycle. I'm more positive trying my best and I've developed anxiety now because it's still not good enough... When he's the one who's cheated lied betrayed so.many times. Then one night after I found out he filed for divorce he asks me for sex and searches through my phone. Fyi. When he told me he didn't love me anymore countless of times I told him there are are men out there who would be gladly be with me n appreciate a good women. He saw a text if me n my friend talking ABD most ly about him. There were pictures exchanged but I was honest n told him. He went off. I'm like what is, wrong with you... You tell me your filing for divorce you don't love me., abuse me why do you care!!!!. Then he left house. Next morning came n try to have sex with nee. Smh now after a great week of positive stuff he says I'm not coming home I'm staying with my buddy in base because your getting your hopes up. Then gets mad I'm super emotional and upset..... This thing I found online describes himhis eyes. It's also because he's conditioned you to think less highly of yourself and to accept his dubious behavior. Because you want to hold on to the fantasy of the ideal relationship he cultivated, you go into denial. You accept his implausible excuses. You put up with your growing fears and doubts. You rationalize his inexplicable absences, his increasingly frequent emotional withdrawals, his curt and icy replies, his petty and mean-spirited ways of "punishing" you for asserting your needs or for not bending to his will."That's him.
Thanks guys :(
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So then three days before he was coming home he skyped with me to.my surprise later on I found out it was only to see if I was home. His ex wife and daughter welcomed him home! Then after that hit... I came home and there was chaos because I called his commander and told him everything. Few weeks later he disses me n our boys in a snow storm and leaves to Indiana to be with his family. Didn't tell me until I.looked I. Phone bill n he was on hours on end with his ex wife. That when I found out he was on a plane to Indiana. He keeps doing horrible things but I keep fighting for our marriage . Showing him setter FIVE years abd this **** he's pulled he's still worth fighting for.
Then recently after doing the 180 advice it worked. We started having amazing sex I started changing. Some how he's made me feel like I am the one one who needs to change. So I've felt so guilty.I've noticed though I'm just letting him do b whatever for sake being a family.
Then I'm like what is going on I cannot even tell you your wrong ABD disrespectful without you saying we don't get along or I'm worthless. He says he doesn't love me anymore but yet plays family with me.... Then data your getting your hopes up. It's like a cycle. I'm more positive trying my best and I've developed anxiety now because it's still not good enough... When he's the one who's cheated lied betrayed so.many times. Then one night after I found out he filed for divorce he asks me for sex and searches through my phone. Fyi. When he told me he didn't love me anymore countless of times I told him there are are men out there who would be gladly be with me n appreciate a good women. He saw a text if me n my friend talking ABD most ly about him. There were pictures exchanged but I was honest n told him. He went off. I'm like what is, wrong with you... You tell me your filing for divorce you don't love me., abuse me why do you care!!!!. Then he left house. Next morning came n try to have sex with nee. Smh now after a great week of positive stuff he says I'm not coming home I'm staying with my buddy in base because your getting your hopes up. Then gets mad I'm super emotional and upset..... This thing I found online describes himhis eyes. It's also because he's conditioned you to think less highly of yourself and to accept his dubious behavior. Because you want to hold on to the fantasy of the ideal relationship he cultivated, you go into denial. You accept his implausible excuses. You put up with your growing fears and doubts. You rationalize his inexplicable absences, his increasingly frequent emotional withdrawals, his curt and icy replies, his petty and mean-spirited ways of "punishing" you for asserting your needs or for not bending to his will."That's him.
Thanks guys :(
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